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writes:Ok I wrote in before about my LDR bf getting super depressed suddenly about everything and losing all emotions etc.I need help again.He didnt come online last night but did tonight and he said he did some thinking and that he wants us to be friends. He said he needs to focus on himself, getting himself better and passing school since hes failing.Im ok with that....however I cant stop crying, Im shaking, Ive been sick twice in the past half hour....Im actually a wreck.First of all I dont know how to be his friend. I love him. Hes everything I want and I wanted to move to be with him (I planned on moving to canada anyway since i was 14 but him living there is the bonus cuz it means i can be with him now too) I just dont know how to befriend him, Im gonna wanna tell him I love him and how much he means to me and be all lovey dovey with him.And secondly the thought of him getting with another girl is killing me. What if he finds someone else, what if he wants a release and finds a girl to make out with or more. What if he moves on and leaves me behind. Im madly in love with him and the thought he could move on from me is killing me.Last of all hes not gonna be online everyday. I talk to him everyday, with the odd accassion. Its gonna drive me nuts wondering how he is, where he is, who hes with. Its killing me...I cant stop crying, this is pathetic but I feel like ive just lost one of the most important things in my life.How do I deal with this right now? and do you think he'll come back to me? He said hes not focused on love or girls right now but like when he thinks hes fine doesnt mean he'll come back to me does it.Im sorry, Im a wreck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes i have met him in real life. We get along amazingly in real, so much better than we do online.
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reader, ghoku  +, writes (13 April 2011):
i just had this situation 2 months ago. the way you feel is normal. i had the same feelings before and i can still feel it somehow. remember that this feelings will eventually get better through time.
for the mean time give yourself time to heal. don't contact your ex cause it will surely bring back all the hurt you are feeling now. give your self time to gather all your emotions. don't beg him to reconsider his decision. it will just give you an impression that you are too clingy and it is totally unattractive.
make this time to improve yourself and be a better person, enjoy being single, hang out with friends, meet new people. eventually if he miss you he will do anything to contact you if not then he's not really for you.
life must go on...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): Have you ever met him or has it all been online? You may have formed an online dependency as a way to not experience real relationships.
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