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writes:Hello and happy new year. A very unfortunate thing happened to my boyfriend when he went back to his country. He's from south africa and he came to visit me. We stay in touch mostly through social networks. Two weeks ago, when i was closing from work, i received a call from his brother. He informed me that my bf was attacked and stabbed twice on his chest. I was shocked. He was unconscious for a few days. As his mobile is with his brother, each time i want to have his news i have to chat with his brother. He told me that my bf is better. I've not heard him ever since his attack. I tried to tell his brother that i would like at least to chat with him if he's having difficulty talking. Not being able to communicate with him affects me and no one seems to care. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2013): I'm so sorry that this happened, and I hope your bf recovers fully & quickly.
Having said that -- not to sound harsh, but this isn't about you. It's all about your boyfriend's recovery and his family rallying around him. Of course you are worried, but you need to focus on his recovery, too. At least his family keeps you filled in.
As other aunts have said, he may not be able to talk without pain. So wanting to talk to him on the phone, while understandable, is selfish.
Chatting verbally isn't the only way to communicate, remember. You can still write & send cards or letters, or send flowers.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (1 January 2013):
 Hi
He may not be strong enough to speak yet though it would be nice if his brother would allow you speak into his ear via the phone to give your Bf some comfort.
His brother probably wants to protect him as best he can.
Do not directly ask his brother which hospital is in as his brother sounds super protective of his sick brother. And may deny you the information on which hospital.
Ask indirectly. Do a little detective work. Such as "it must be tiring for you to have to drive so far to and from the hospital every day." if he says it's very far away you could reply, "far away from what?" Or "Has the hospital got all the facilities to give him the best care" then he might volunteer that it is the biggest hospital in the city. That will help you narrow it down.
Once you work out which hospital then Phone up the hospital and let them know that you are Girlfriend of .........(his name).
The hospital authorities may be prepared to give you an update.
If still no luck then arrange (online) with a florist to send him a "Get Well" card with a message (that you dictate to the online florist) and some flowers and ask the florist to confirm that the delivery was completed and that the hospital confirmed that they had a patient with his name. Florists can always get flowers into a hospital
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (1 January 2013):
 Hello,
I think your boyfriends family are probably too busy looking after him to give you much thought. It's not that they don't care, but he's their priority. If he was unconscious for a few days he was probably intubated (tube in his airway) to help him breathe, and even if he's not intubated now he'll have a very sore throat. He sounds like he was gravely unwell, and I suspect he's still not well enough to talk to you.
Are you able to go and visit him in South Africa? That's what I'd want to do. Of course it's not necessarily that easy to pay for airfare, get time off work etc.
I think you need to keep in touch with his brother, let him know you'd appreciate an update a few times a week on your BF's progress. Don't hassle him though, as anxious as you are. Write your boyfriend a letter, send him a card so he knows you're thinking of him.
I hope your BF makes a full and speedy recovery. Visit him as soon as you can.
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