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writes:Me and my significant other been together for 12 years When it comes to working, he’s a little lazy and wants easy jobs like uber, Postmates, etc. me on the other hand, I’m a worker, went to school completed my bachelors degree while being with him. I tried to convince him also to go back to school and at least get his GED, He”s a smart guy, but lazy long story short I recently leased a car that I’m paying car note and insurance for on my own, he uses the car to pick up 1 child to take to school and back home where the parents pay him 90 a week. I get upset with him because he’s not helping me at all with no Payments, he wants to make a schedule where 1 week he uses the car than the next week I do. And than he wants to give everyone that asked for a ride, a ride Am I stupid for this or what? Advice please, Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2019): You know if you stay with him you will be supporting his lazy butt forever. Is this what you want? What does he do with that ninety dollars? He should give it all to you for supporting him. Does he buy drugs or alcohol with it? What does he bring to the relationship? Nothing? Why are you still with such a Loser? You know you can do much better.Dump the lazy mooch you are being used.
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reader, Harry29  +, writes (17 February 2019):
 He picks up a child for school - using your car - and he gets paid? Then gives you nothing of that payment?
You need to charge him a full commercial daily rental for using YOUR car!
Why does he want to seem to be everybody's friend, offering lifts to all and sundry? He must be an inadequate person, buying friendship in that way.
If he canot accept that he has to do his share in tnis relationship and pay his way equally, point him in the direction of the departure lounge.....
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reader, N91 +, writes (17 February 2019):
 I have to agree.
He’s lazy because you’re allowing him to be. Tell him to get off his ass, grow up, get a stable job and pay for his own car or you’re out. He’s coasting by because you accept it and clean up after him, sounds like a pretty sweet deal for him to be honest so why would he change?
This guy sounds like an absolute bum. You’re not married after 12 years?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2019): You may not be stupid, but you make bad choices. You complain that he's lazy, but you keep him around. He's basically letting you support him.
Let him get his own car. That ought to motivate him to get-up off his lazy ass. I'd kick him out, but you'd rather keep him and complain. Asking for advice on what to do with him after keeping him all this long makes no sense.
If you financially support a grown-man like a child; then you have to provide for all his needs as you would a child. You don't complain about it, you just do it. Twelve years huh?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 February 2019):
 Just say no.
If he wants a car, he can GO buy one and pay for it.
How hard is that?
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