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writes: I have a problem with trusting my boyfriend because of past experiences, he often gets frustrated and upset and I don't want to lose him, How can I overcome my past wounds without hurting him? Reply to this Question
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reader, ogga +, writes (3 July 2006):
I too have this problem but i tryto not let it over come me. i got it from when i was best friends with a girl who cheated on her boyfriend who was one of my friends. and i was paranoid when i was going out with her and it has stuck to me. I tell myself that they arent and that if they didnt love me they wouldnt be with me it really helps your confidence,, if he gets vey annoyed by it then he isnt cheating he is genuinely upset.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2006): It's good that you wrote this question, it shows that you want to overcome your past wounds. But, if your boyfriend is the right guy for you, he will not get frustrated or upset when there is a problem.
It's probably not a good idea to be in a relationship if you have big issues relating to your past; relationships are for when such issues arn't such a problem; a time when you are more focused on the future, not on the past.
You can overcome your past wounds with time, it is in time that you can rationalise things that have happened in your past, and through this rationalisation, it makes you more clear and certain about yourself; it is only then you are truely ready to become commited with someone else.
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