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writes:Me and my husband have an 8-year-old daughter, we've been together for 12 years.However, over the last three weeks we've had significant arguments.They're over serious things. Not things like bills, finances, money woes or even division of household chores.Porn, yes, porn.I don't hate porn. Viewed it myself occasionally when I was aged 18-24 and single. What I do hate is when my husband became so addicted to it he can't go one day without it.He spends HOURS online masturbating to pictures of women from OnlyFans, used our bank account to pay for membership, for around twelve accounts on there, ignores spending time with our daughter to do so, and I'm even more furious to find out he invited a camgirl over to our house when our daughter was here (I'd gone to do some shopping getting present for my husband who's birthday is in six weeks' time), and he shared some beers with the camgirl while our daughter was in the room playing. WTF???Why would he invite a camgirl over anyway?I confronted him over this but he insisted I needed to take a chill pill.Chill pill? I'm stressed AF, can't cope at all with this, it's like a genuine addiction.This is our second biggest crisis since coping with a well-loved aunt's death (one of my six aunts on mom's side of the family); my husband helped me through that.I could just help him through it but he won't get treatment, claiming there's some sort of political conspiracy theory with regard to psychiatrists and them being puppets of the President.He's not even interested in sex as much anymore due to this, and he's already been suspended from work for sending people pictures of hunky men and women in bikinis via work email; one ended up going to an important member of the board who was furious about receiving nude men to his email. Now husband's boss is investigating.I don't think he can see he has a problem.This is making me question my relationship,if we've got a future.I love him, but now it feels futile trying to help and I feel worn down, being mom and dad to my daughter.Before anyone says divorce, which is the nuclear option for me, do you think there's no hope, I wonder if I'll ever get the romantic man who was kind and good fun, back?It's concerning me a lot, having sleepless stressed nights about this.I don't want people thinking this is fake, but truth is stranger than fiction as they say. I'm suffering a lot.I do have friends who can help, but am too embarrassed to discuss this with girlfriends. Not religious, so church isn't an issue.I work from home now, as a website designer, do Upwork-style things, so most of my clients I don't meet face-to-face; I've been a freelancer for a long time now, my husband isn't one, he's an office worker.Is there any hope to resolving this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2022): You ramble on but the bit that made me laugh was him inviting a camgirl over and saying she came over. I can't stop laughing. A camgirl tolerates wnkers and charges money to them to watch her online. She finds it and them incredibly boringbut does it for the money. The good ones are very busy with a lot of regulars. To them it is all about the money. If they won the lottery they would stop. Yet according to you instead of earning money on there she wasted her time visiting a guy - all at no charge.... including the risk of being raped, strangled, abducted and forced to work in a brothel etc.Lots of wankers invite these girls over. Of course they do.It would be great for them to have some sexy piece of meat come over and try to get their leg over. But why on earth would the girl want to visit him? Even if he offered to pay her the usual fees per hour she is better off and much safer doing cam work online.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2022): Does cam girls come to their customer's homes? I am not familiar by them but I thought they do their trade on line exclusively.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2022): If you found out that he was trying to normalize his porn fantasies so that he could start to break your barriers down would you still feel tolerant towards him?
He has already brought the porn industry closer to home by inviting the can girl into the home where your family lives whilst you were out.
Then he has the nerve to tell you to take a chill pill.
I think he'll just push it further until you agree to do cam girl work online for him to view.
His idea of family life seems remote from others idea of family life.
He is addicted and so far isn't showing any sign of change.
Sometimes a person has to do what seems right for them or the family so I think maybe you should head down to the legal team to sort out your affairs such as legal, financial and visitation restrictions regarding your daughter.
Then you and your daughter sort out your own living arrangements...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2022): If you don't want people to think that this is fake, maybe you should stop flooding Dear Cupid with blatantly contrived, far-fetched and easily beliable stories,always written using the same vocabulary, punctuation ,writing style and contents which make you so promptly detectable.I mean, maybe *this * time you could have a real problem, or at least be talking about somebody's real life problems. But seen how often we have been regaled with details about your six aunts or twin daughters or transgender husbands etc ., somehow people will be inclined to dismiss such a post as fake
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