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writes:My husband's best friend is a well-known womanizer. My husband has made it somewhat clear that it wouldn't be a good idea for him to "date" his younger sister. He even expressed this concern to his sister. She agreed that she would steer clear. But we've recently discovered that she has slept with him. Not only is he 18 years her senior but he broke up with his long-term girlfriend just to make my husband's sister not feel guilty. I begged my husband to talk to his "friend" long before this happened. He said he would but never did and probably never will. He is just allowing people to walk over him - and they know they can get away with it. It is obviously that he is angry about being betrayed by both his "friend" and sibling. What should be done here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): if she is of age what is the problem...it is her business who she sleeps with, isn't it?
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (13 December 2007):
 Well seeing that your husband lets everyone walk all over him I dont think if he goes and talks to his friend and his sister it would do any good. But it happend they have already done things together so i dont think it is going to do anygood to say anything. Have you tryed to talk to his sister about this? Because sometimes female to female talk is alot better then male to female talk specially from a brother so maybe you could talk to her so she thinks about it a little more!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): It's probably not what you want to hear, but it's not really any concern of yours who dates or sleeps with who.
Put yourself in her shoes - would you want someone telling you who you can and cannot go out with? Would you take any notice if they did? Of course you wouldn't, in fact you'd probably do the opposite - which is what she's doing. If he's a womaniser she'll find out soon enough. Let her make her own mistakes - if indeed it is a mistake - that's the only way anyone learns anything. There's something of the 'rebel' in all of us and she's no different.
Just be there for her if she needs a shoulder to cry on if it all goes 'tits up'.
Your husband is not allowing people to walk all over him - he's just keeping his nose out of other peoples business.
Phil
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