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writes: My husband started a new job and relocated to one of the islands just one month short of a year ago. He knows I hate living by myself and I am rearing our 12 year old daughter who had to stay with me all on my own. She visits him during school breaks. I used to visit him quite a lot on the weekends however I noticed that he is never keen on visiting home. He has only come back home for a visit 5 times for 1 or 2 days since he left even though his employer has made provisions for him to visit more often. He told me my daughter she is welcomed to relocate and be with him but what hurts me is that he has never once told me I can do the same. He has no plans for our marriage and never talks about how we will deal with this situation in the future. Quite frankly I am fed up with the situation and have tried to talk to him over and over about this but he never wants to. His 78 year old mother has been in the hospital for a week now and he has not yet come home to see her. I am so hurt by his behavior and very ready to get a divorce and move on. Why doesn't he think we have a serious problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2006): You have to go and visit him and get the truth of what he really wants out of this marriage. It does look like he wants to be on his own but wants a relationship with his daughter only. I think you have an idea of what is going on but you have to face it and don't delay what is about to happen any longer. You also have to get on with your own life too. It is better to know where you stand in this relationship. His distancing from you has gone on far too long even to the point of not visiting his own Mother who is ill just to avoid seeing you. Enough.
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