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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My husband of only a year loves to watch porn. I dont think he is addicted to it. But if i leave the house for a long period of time he will sneak off and watch it behind my back. I used to have better self esteem. But ever since i found out about this I seem to have no self esteem at all. It really hurt when i had our first baby he went home to "feed the dog" but masturbated! I was in the hospital in so much pain and he was home lusting after another woman! I am just so angry and depressed over it. He says thats just how men are and i need to get over because he wouldnt care if i was looking at porn without him. Every day i get more and more depressed and I really cannot pull myself out of this depression. How can i get over this or should i?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2010): It is good to know I am not the only one having this issue. I have been married for 15 months now, and I just found out about this a month ago. I feel betrayed, and very dissapointed, it makes me feel stupid. I really don't thing there is something I can do about it, since I told him not to do it once and after he promised me he wouldn't do it anymore, I know he's been doing it lately.
I know I can't control his behavior, but I can control my lap top. So I decided to change the administrator password and user name in my computer, and created a type of guest account for him. But it doesn't end there, I set up parental control in it, so now he can't check any more porn sites, neither any of the other crap he likes so much. He likes to behave like a 14 year old boy, he is going to be punished like a 14 year old boy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): I understand your pain... My husband does the same thing as well and yes it makes me very angry.I have caught my husband many times and its funny how every man has no answer besides I am sorry. I feel less of a person when I catch him in the act of stupidity, which I guess they do not realize how pathetic they really look when they are doing so with beautiful children and a wonderful wife. I do not have children yet, but I do understand your anger and frustration.
MARRIED MEN THAT LOOK AT PORN ARE NO BETTER THEN A CHEATER!
WHEN YOU LUST AFTER ANOTHER WOMEN IN GODS EYES YOU ARE CHEATING, FOR YOU ARE NO BETTER THEN THE CHEATING MAN V.S THE LUSTING HUSBAND.
Every time a husband does that he is no just betraying your wife, but you best friend, your life partner.
For all the women out there
that who reads this message,
Marriage Counseling, prayer,
and put a porn block on your
PC.
Look it up or talk
someone on how.
GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (7 February 2010):
 I am sorry for your bad luck. And, more sorry to see that there is very little hope for you from your husband. He has inbuilt bad nature, so he will never do anything that comfort your life, As a last hope, you should show your stone hard face expression. Almost without feeling, not even of anger. And, see it affect him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): I myself have the same problem.But i suffer from sexual abuse as a child,as a man, that has affected avery part of my life.It can take great control over every thing,I have learned to control my obssesion[it is a problem,and can grow to be dangerous]you both should see a therapist
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