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writes:I try to tell my husband to slow down but he does not listen but I thinkit is hurting because on jan10 and I was having sex and I was in pain that same day so I think that's why so I don't know what to do anymore Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 Tell him how much he is hurting you. Maybe you could go on top so that you can control the speed and the depth. I wouldnt go as far as saying he is raping you though that is going to far he is possibly just getting carried away with himself. But you need to sit down with him and tell him how much it is hurting you. If he doesnt resepect that then yes i agree deny him sex because he should want to make you happy as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): When making love, its supposed to be enjoyable for both of you. Not just him. If hes being selfish and forgetting that theres someone else there with him. Then tell him hes hurting you and you arent enjoying it. Its no good suffering in silence, because hes not a mind reader. If its hurting and you say nothing, dont expect things to change. Explain that it hurts and tell him you dont want sex with him unless he stops being selfish and considers you too. The next time you have sex, if he starts getting carried away. Start saying, Ouch! Ouch! Ouch! Do that in time to his rough movements. That should slow him down!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): I agree, if he loves you he would want to give you pleasure NOT hurt you. Tell him NO sex until he works on this.
Go to a gyn to see if you have an infection,uti and yeast infections are possibilities. You will both need to be treated if so.
If you keep having painful sex, you will inflame yourself and make whatever is causing this worse. You will also start to associate sex with pain.
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reader, Fabulosa +, writes (16 January 2011):
 You have to tell him and if he doesn't respect you and your body you need to stop having sex with him and maybe see a counciler. If he loves you he would want sex to be enjoyablefor you. He woulnt want it to hurt you.
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