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writes: Went to get a pasty for our lunch with our adult children and hubby.Our daughter knows a woman who works in the shop when our daughter used to work there herself. This woman was in her 3os, had red long hair and was pretty.My hubby likes red haired women and seen him looking at her couple of times. I felt jealous. I do not know if this woman knew my hubby was looking at her and was talking to our daughter every time I looked over. Hubby said after we left the shop this woman said she missed our daughter working there. He must have been listening in when he was looking at her. I did not hear her say this or was looking at her much so don't know what was said between them.If I knew a man was looking at me a lot and he was out with his wife I would think he must fancy me.Hubby must know what he is doing and does not take into account I am standing right next to him. Not only does he look like a dirty old man eyeing up someone 2o years his junior but he forgets he is married and is not caring about me being there.I've done so much to make him happy but what is the point when he does this to me. why give him sex on tap, why dress up, why worry about him anymore when clearly he is showing he does not care about me at all.There are pretty people out there I know I see pretty men and women but I don't keep looking at them if I am out with my hubby or not. A younger man would not want a 54 year old middle aged wrinkly plain looking woman. Hubby is not by any means a oil painting yet he seems to think he is ok to keep looking at pretty women longer then necessary. It doesn't matter if it hurts me or I feel ugly he carries on when he clearly knows how it makes me feel when told him.He must have fantasies about being with a red haired woman and someone half his age or any young woman for that matter. He's been with me a long time and seen how my body has changed and looks have over the years. At his age of 58 did not have to think he would be like that anymore. I am in competition with younger women when I can't compete to how they look.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2024): I'm 49 and my partner same age does this he looks at all young women with long brown hair and he won't stop so I am leaving him not because I'm insecure or jealous I am embarrassed by his behaviour and no longer like going out with him anymore. I have had many boyfriends who never did this so it isn't you it's him for sure
He does it because you let him yes. Men only respect women who are willing to walk away and yes that is what you must do and myself for our own mental health
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2024): I'm 49 and my partner same age does this he looks at all young women with long brown hair and he won't stop so I am leaving him not because I'm insecure or jealous I am embarrassed by his behaviour and no longer like going out with him anymore. I have had many boyfriends who never did this so it isn't you it's him for sure
He does it because you let him yes. Men only respect women who are willing to walk away and yes that is what you must do and myself for our own mental health
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2024): I'm 49 and my partner same age does this he looks at all young women with long brown hair and he won't stop so I am leaving him not because I'm insecure or jealous I am embarrassed by his behaviour and no longer like going out with him anymore. I have had many boyfriends who never did this so it isn't you it's him for sure
He does it because you let him yes. Men only respect women who are willing to walk away and yes that is what you must do and myself for our own mental health
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reader, Keen Fox  +, writes (21 February 2024):
I think the issue here is not his looking, but your own insecurities. As a man, my perspective is different than the previous commenter. As a man, I can tell you it’s basically impossible for us not to look when there’s a curvy, bodacious body in front of us. The curve of a woman’s hips and the shape of her breasts are irresistible to a man’s eyes. Out of respect for my wife, I really do TRY as hard as I can to not look, but men are simply hardwired to look at physically fit, curvy women and it’s NOT something we are capable of turning off. It’s damn near impossible not to look these days with women wearing skin tight leggings as pants that show off every curve of their ass, and crop tops that show their toned, fit stomachs. Women have no sense of modesty anymore in this day and age, and that makes is really hard for men these days!! Your husband is a normal healthy man doing what a normal healthy man naturally does. He is NOT unfaithful to you. He did NOT cheat on you. How can you get so upset about him merely looking and nothing more? I’m glad my wife is more understanding of a man’s needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2024): You can't teach an old dog new tricks, and you cannot teach aifetime ogler to not ogle. I get the feeling that this is notjing new and that he is doing this since a long time You should have intervened and fixed this behaviour quite a while ago. Now , I would not even bother trying, and I would not even bother feeling bad about it. After all, like you said, it's not as if some young whippersnapper is going to snatch him from you. If he does not mind looking like a pathetic dirty old man - so be it , that's on him .
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