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writes:hi friends i have a problem that my husband is very much interested in sex. he also wants to have sex with other women. he loves me, he takes care of me every time but he tells that this is his weakness. oneday i told that i will go away if he do sex with someone. he dont want to miss me, so he told he will try to control. whenever he fails to control he asks me for permission to go outside for sex. till now he didnt do sex with other women but always begging me for permission. but i cant bare sharing my husband with any one. i love him a lot cant even think of missing him. but i feel insecure and depressed. he looks handsome and some women are also showing interest towards him. what should i do, how can i divert his looks from others on to me?
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reader, lonleylover  +, writes (29 March 2012):
im 39 wks pregnant , my baby will be here anytime and im going threw the SAME thing. he wants to have sex with other women but be in a relationship with me. not to mention we are married. part of me hates him for this but the other part of me says "you married him , deal with it." he blames it on his ocd. idk but just go with your gut hun , do what you want to do. im still with my husband but i dont know how much longer i can take this
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2009): You need to do everything in your power to keep him. If you are hot it will help you. But he's going to look for sex outside anyway, as he should. You would be better off just giving up and pursuing a life of quiet and humble resignation, just as every good woman should. Soon he will tire of his floozies and one-night bimbos and come running home to you to make him something to eat and wash his lipstick-stained shirts, wreaking of other womens' cheap perfume and cheap booze. Wait patiently at the door for his approach.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): your hb does not respect you. he is using you. he cares nothing for you.you may love him but you will always be wondering what he is up to. and believe me this man is up to no good. kick him out of your home. expose him to your family. also have a family counsel (get the elders together and confide in them) tell them what he is doing to you. he is actually emotionally and mentally abusing you and slowly you are going out of your mind. put a stop to him cruel words. take charge of the situation. do not allow him to betray you. show him you are made of better stuff. in the end he will stray. why don't you leave him while you can. he will only hurt you even more as time goes by. he is not addicted to sex. he is lying. he just wants to screw anything and everything. and don't trust the women. don't leave him alone with them. do not feel bad if you need to keep an eye on him all the time. do not feel bad that you do not trust him. beat him at his own game. if all else fails go out and screw his brother, his best friend and his enemy. 9just kidding, i am being nasty here)Indian men HATE the idea of their women being desired by other men. they want their wives to remain pure for them while they screw hat they want. this is double standards and we are not living in the dark ages. we live in a democracy and we need to be respected firstly. take a stand as a wife and as a woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): this man clearly doesn't want to be bound by one woman sexually. in marriage or any relationship, you shouldn't have to worry about one betraying you or being unfaithful so there's no reason why you should feel insecure about the other women ahowing him interest.some people have an open-sex relationship, meaning that they don't mind if their partner goes and have sex with another and they do the same. but this seems out of the question for you, since you said that you don't want to share him. there are times where one may face temptation to cheat on their spouse but if one truly loves their partner then the temptation doesn't stand a chance. if he wanted to sleep around with other women, then he shouldn't have married you. get out of that marriage, it's doing nothing for your emotional and psychlogical well-being.if he still claims that he wants to be your husband, then tell that sucker to get his act together and get some consueling or something and don't come back to you if he doesn't want to change.
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reader, Delboy69  +, writes (14 October 2009):
Divorce - and take him for half.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): This isn't about you keeping your husband interested and looking at you so he won't have sex with other women.
This is him telling you that he wants to be unfaithful to you. It doesn't seem this marriage is going to work, maybe you should think about divorce before you are having children with a cheater....you don't want to share him and I don't think you should have to share him with another woman. That is not what marriage is about.
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