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writes:I need a little help, my husband is the one who works in our relationship and I'm a housewife, but he's always throwing up the fact he's the only one who works, and every time I say that he's throwing it in my face or mention getting a job he loses his cool. He says that I don't need a job. I'm confused. What do I do? Do I just get a job and leave him angry or do I just remain a housewife. Is this simply because of the age gap, or is it because we don't have kids yet? What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe throws them in my face when I mention being tired or ask him to help me do something at the house. It's a never ending cycle it seems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): He is not angry with you he is stressed out with his work. Instead of worring about getting a job ask him more often about work BUT do it in a nonchalant way so he can get stuff off his chest. Also, make his experience of working easier by doing little things such as getting up with him before work and "catering" to him like getting his clothes together or helping him find his keys. I think a working man just wants to feel apprectiated so make sure your doing everything you can to make it happen. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): I would agree with the answer saying that your husband is exerting control over you and your feelings. I would also say that you are indeed working when at home. How much does he do around the house? A home is a job you never leave. Would you be interested in volunteer work... with kids, for instance, reading in schools, or with elderly... shopping, meals on wheels, etc. There are many ways to be appreciated, and you deserve to feel that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): I think he is showing traits of control! He wants you to be the old fashioned woman who cooks for him the whole time when he wants at the time he wants, i'd advise you to get a job without his permission even just a small one, soo that you gain some independence!
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reader, FoxIRL +, writes (24 April 2009):
Well, just out of curiosity, when and why does he throw these things up into your face? That would help a lot in thinking the situation over, at least on my end.
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