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41-50,
*attatonic
writes:So I posted a question a few days ago and everyone who responded was sooo sweet. So I want to ask something else about the same guy...like I said we have been friends for about 3 months...we decided not to date but that we wanted to have sex, so the other day he came over to do it and couldn't get it up. He's 20 and I'm 28 (just to fill in those who didn't read my first question) but when we are together there is serious chemistry but he says he doesn't "feel that way about me" - and he has said that so much that I almost don't believe him...so the question here is: should I believe him? Or is it possible he just doesn't know what he is feeling? Please be honest about this if you answer. Specially you men on here. He is very inexperienced and young....so what should I think? My instincts are he likes me and he is fighting it...but I don't wanna be the crazy chick? Ya know?Thanks all!-c Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): Yeah.. if he was nervous at all that kills things. Just try to get your young friend as relaxed as possible. Also he doesn't sound like the type that can just do anybody, not comfortable enough. He sounds like the type that needs a true connection with his lover, so that she can ease his fears and relax him and what not.
Also, it will compound. No guy likes it when the soldier doesn't do its duty right, and they get hangups about that. SO chances are he might develop more and more of a complex as you try more.
One good way to get passed this is herbal help. Go to a vitamin/supplement store and pick up some of their "libido" capsules or something similar..they have a lot to choose from. After taking some of that stuff you can get it up for a one toothed 60 year old fishwife from the Ukraine, trust. lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): Of course he likes you. If he couldn't "get it up" then he was probably nervous. It's not his fault. He's probably confused. Give him time, and he will realize his true feelings for you. But I'm only 13,and I've been in worse (or at least I think) no offense.=)
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