My husband shows me no interest, I feel so lonely what do I do?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I am 33 and my husband of nearly 2 years is 42. We met in Nov 06 and married in July 07. I moved 1 hour away from freinds and family to live with him. When we first met it was unlike anything i'd ever experienced before he was so attentive and wanted to spend all his time with me i couldnt belive my luck that someone like him could love me so much. Now its a different story - i hardly ever see him... yes he works hard but after work he goes to play football and when hes not playing football hes out with his friends - we never go out together, we never do anything, we havent had sex in 4 months - god ive tried but there was a spell where he was addicted to his playstation (yes hes 42!) and would be on it till 1am sometimes - so i stopped trying... we have had plenty of money worries but they are slowly getting better. I mean i say why dont we go out on saturday night, for gods sake take me out!! - but he uses every excuse under the sun - then the next thing its - oh so and so have asked me to go on a sportsmans dinner as someone has dropped out - he goes out and never calls, i can ring him and he doesnt answer - i am fed up and want out - how can someone change so much??????????? i am so unhappy, should i give this marraige one last chance or call it quits - all i do is sit around and wait for him - yes i have activities that i do but i want to spend more time with my husband not without him - i love him but i hate my life and feel so depressed. i never wanted to be a divorcee but i cant live like this - when i try to speak to him he says yes i know you are on your own a lot - and then goes out!! Why did he have me move here to leave me on my own i have never felt as low and lonely. I see my family and freinds once a week but its difficult with work. Also i dont think he wants kids now - hes now saying he doesnt want young children when hes 50 - hes now 42 yest when we were dating he said he would love kids (he aldready had 1 son) please help, am i doing something wrong here??? should i leave, i feel guilty feeling like this but he dosent seem to give two hoots about me - i expected more from life than this x

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