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writes:My husband registered himself in a dating website, when I was ill and going through dialysis. He actively searched for women, and e-chatted with them for about a month. Now I am healthy and he says he loves me, but can I trust him? and is it normal to feel betrayed and hurt? Reply to this Question
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reader, dinamd70 +, writes (15 September 2008):
Hi..
I am just going threw this myself..Its a very hard thing to deal with. I caught my husband on a website looking someone to have sex with. I did forgive him and again I found more. He promised he would change and never did..I went into the computer and found multi websites he was on. Im sorry more women have to go threw this terrible thing. Its not our fault its a problem with them. He denided everything but this time I printed everything so I can show the lawyers. Play this smart copy everything and save it. They never change its a sick-ness. I have a 7 year old daughter that I dont want to be subjected to his sick behavior.
Lots of luck to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): Sorry to say this but after having lived through something similar,i think you had better check he hasnt changed profile and is still doing it. He's obviously no feelings for you. It was unforgivable. Pity you're not with someone who cares.
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reader, lottie91  +, writes (11 August 2008):
You are right to feel betrayed and upset. You should question his reasoning for doing this and tell him how it made you feel. You need to find out whether he was after another relationship or if he was just out looking for some company to help him get over your illness. Alot of men seek company from other females to help them come to terms with illness of their partner's. You should talk to him about it and find out why he would do such a thing. Maybe marriage counselling would help as well.
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reader, Spiffeh +, writes (11 August 2008):
Whoa he was trying to replace you before you were even gone! Its right to feel betrayed by him. I would advise trying to get some help as suggested below =] x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): Hi,
I am so sorry to hear your husband has done this to you especially when you were ill your thinking how could he?
Firstly challenge his reasons for doing so and ask what was he intending to do if a chat up was eager to follow through a date with him?
Does he still love you the way he used to? is he bored with you? ask all these things believe me men do not go onto these sites just for fun and i know too many who think a bit on the side is ok! including my own!
You are right to feel betrayed and can't trust him he is going behind your back and looking for other women who would'nt feel like you do?
him about what his intentions where here and i would also keep your eyes on him check his phone e-mails constantly check the p.c. for history and don't for a minute leave him on the pc alone i did and my husband was viewing porn then went onto brothels and cheated behind my back for a number of years now i am not saying yours is doing this but believe me if he is looking he is wanting some action.
Talk to him don't be fobbed of with oh i still love you it was just a bit of fun!! fun for who?? certainly not you if you can nip this in the bud before it does get out of control you will be fine if not then your in for a whole bunch of problems i do hope you can talk this through and take care of yourself his main priority should be to take care of you right now not look for other women!!
Gina.
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