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writes:Me and my husband moved from one state to another state for my husband's new job three months ago.As of last Thursday, he's lost his job and I am beginning to question if this was even a good idea!!I'm a mom to a 6 year old daughter, and work in management level for a fashion chain, but had to take a pay cut and work as a shop assistant, which was a culture shock change for me, years since I'd done this.My husband wants to stay here but I want to move back, thinks everything's better here in the state we are in now.He will NOT listen to any of my arguments and insists we should tough it out.I'm having money worries and don't know how to resolve this.I'm from one place originally, husband is from another place, so neither of us are Midwesterners, we're transplants.What do we do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 October 2016):
 It is a tough situation, I can see where you are both coming from. You uprooted your life so that your husband could take this job, but now it has not worked out. Your husband probably does not want to go back and tell everyone he failed. Plus it is not good for your daughter to be moving around all the time, she needs a stable home.
Sit down and talk to your husband tell him about your money worries. What would happen if you went back to the other state? Would you get your old job back? Would he? Or would it be the same situation as you are both in now. You both need to meet in the middle and decide what is best as a family.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (2 October 2016):
 This is a tough one for you both. I would suggest jointly agreeing to set a time limit on your stay there. If your situation hasn't improved in say six months (or whatever seems fair) then agree that you will move back.
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