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writes: I really need advice as to what I could do to make myself more attractive to my husband as he is no longer as attracted to me. I have asked him but he seems to be too embarrassed to tell me....or thinks he will upset me. Any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (23 January 2006):
 Take a good hard look in the mirror. Do you think you look okay or do you see areas that need improvement? If you decide that all is well then work on your attitude. Show Hubby that silly side he once thought was so charming, or your sweet side and shower him with your undivided attention. Whatever you think has been neglected, work on it. If you need to drop a few pounds, start a diet and get rid of them. You'll feel better about yourself and he'll certainly respond to that. Get going and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2006): Hi Thanks the thing is I know Im attractive and feel attractive except when Im intimate with him I know he thinks my body is ugly
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2006): Sure the attraction we have to our partner is important in marriage but I think physical attraction is also very important
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2006): Feeling attractive comes from the inside. Having a good, loving relationship has little to do with the shapeness of your breasts, the length of your legs or the symmentry of your face. But instead, is about the warmth and energy you project in your life and your marriage. Being truly attractive is about health, radiance, and the spark of life you show to the world. When you are interested in others and have hobbies and passions that you bring to relationships you show the true inner grace and beauty that glows from inside you. Begin by smiling. Be well groomed. Pick your best feature, eyes, lips, shiny hair, attractive ears, and highlight it. By finding grace and joy in your life, and an interest in others-it's likely he will take note of that about you. However, do all this for yourself. Do not do it just to appease a wayward husband who may not a appreciate what you have to offer. Don’t ever let anybody determine how you feel about yourself. No one should have that kind of power over you. Sit him down and open the channels of communication and ask him to be honest and direct with you. Maybe the both of you can arrive at a satisfactory compromise. But if he's grown complacent and bored and is not putting in his 100% of the effort-you my dear, have a problem and your marriage could be sinking. Try to get into some marriage counseling and have a therapist tell your husband that this marriage is not 'just about him' and his needs. He sounds like a self-centered man..sometimes I wonder if a woman is better off-without a man who makes her feel this way? I wouldn't tolerate it-no woman should. That's just plain disrespectful. Talk to him, first-you need some honest answers.. and then go from there. Good luck and Take Care.
Hugs, Irish
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