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writes: I am a 34 year old woman and have been married for 15 years. We have two children. My husband has always been a very moody person, if he is not depressed, he is angry. I get no love, sex or emotional support from this man. He blames me for every thing that goes wrong in his life and he is making me crazy. I hate to upset my children but I am miserable being his emotional kicking post. Should I at this point just give up on our marriage and walk away or should I stay for the sake of keeping the peace?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2006): Get away from him as soon as you can it will never get any better. I wished I had done it years ago but you think it will change but trust me it does not!!!
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reader, hope +, writes (13 January 2006):
You have already gotten a lot of good advice for this one but I'm going to throw in my two cents here after reading the responses. I do agree that it is more harmful for the children to be in an unhappy home and nobody should live their life miserable because of a peice of paper. Obviously he isn't bothering to give you or your kids what they need, it sounds like he is more concerned about his feelings more than anyone elses. As far as "for better or for worse", I think that refers more to sickness, small fights, finances, etc. and it sounds like you've had years of sucking it up,,,,miserable people tend to blame everyone around them for their feelings, don't let his misery destroy you and your chance at happiness, really the only question you need to answer is, would life be better with him or without him? If the answer is 'without' leave him behind and move on with your life. I am sure there is some woman with poor self esteem that would be happy to have him. And I'm also sure that there is some man out there that would be more than happy to have you. Good luck
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reader, vanila_5 +, writes (13 January 2006):
I would if I could if I were you because it's not good for you and the kids..just because he's so unhappy in his life doesn't mean u guys have to be..good luck and just remember don't ever look back..
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2006): does the phrase "for better or worse" mean anything to you? you made a promise. suck it up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2006): As someone that came out the other side of that kind of relationship- I know the issues that you're facing and the guilt that you must be feeling because of the children. However you are worth so much more than that and if you're unhappy then this will impact more negatively on your children than splitting up could ever do. You have to look hard and deep at the situation and see if you still recognise yourself as the same person you were at the start of your relationship: if the answer is no and you have been worn down to the extent that you can longer see who you really are then get out of it.Be strong and do what your head is telling you to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2006): It doesn't sound to me by you staying that you would be "keeping the peace." Due to the fact that there are children involved, them being around such a moody Father.. how would this keep the peace? I would think this would be doing more harm to them, then good! Seeing him angry with you and not being supportive of you is teaching them bad relatioship skills. I'm certain this will have a negative effect on them.You have been married for quite sometime and have alot invested.I would have a long sit down with your husband and suggest he seek some kind of councilling. It sounds to me like you are at your wits end. Just by reading the post I'm assumming he is not going to agree to do this.If he doesn't agree to get some help to save his marraige,then maybe you are going to have to do some soul searching and figure out if its really worth it to stay.Good Luck hun!
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