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writes:My husband recently had a small stroke. Before this and after, he had been acting weird; staying out all the time. spending money (even though there wasn't money in the checking account), lying all the time, moody and depressed, never wanting to go out, being mean to me and my son, almost loss his job. I don't know whether all of this was because of his high blood pressure, stroke, or he is a con man; in other words, he does things regardless of who he hurts. We have been married 39 yrs. and have had lots of up and downs, mostly downs. He would yell at me if the waitress sat us at the wrong table, spends evening by himself, no sex starting at age 37, and just odd behavior. I have been told to move out by a friend, but guess what, then I have to go back to work, find a place to live, and he is the ass not me. He should have to move out if he wants his own life. Any thoughts from all of you out there?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): "He should have to move out if he wants his own life. Any thoughts from all of you out there?"
I'ma bit confused of the situation to be honest, you don't mention whether you're breaking up, just want peace, what?
Sounds to me like you had an argument and you're just venting to be honest OP.
"He should have to move out if he wants his own life."
Yes and you should move out if you want your own life in normal circumstances but I think there's more to this story than just your side if you've been told to move out by a friend.
OP if you want a clean break it's up to you go get that and moving out is the way to do that. The thoughts of a job and paying rent may scare you after so long because you're not used to it but the women I know who have done that felt liberated, they loved working and being an independent woman and they loved their fresh start. Even if in the beginning it was heartbreaking to leave the home they'd built. OP I think he's sitting pretty and is fine where he is, it seems you're the one who doesn't like the situation, well I hate to break it to you but you can't just kick him out because of that, not legally and not morally either. OP the guy sounds like he's lost it mentally and health wise, kick him out and he probably won't make it, you sound strong healthy and probably will find it easier to adapt to new circumstances. You're the one who needs a break from the routine, even if he goes you'll still just be in that house with pretty much having had nothing change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): "I have been told to move out by a friend, but guess what, then I have to go back to work, find a place to live, and he is the ass not me. He should have to move out if he wants his own life. Any thoughts from all of you out there?"Hubby already has his own life, the same one you have let him enjoy for thirty-nine years. He has no reason to move out, and as his lawfully wedded spouse you have no right to evict him from his own home for which his income apparently pays absent mitigating circumstances, even if he is an ass. If you want a life different than that with your husband, then the burden is indeed on you. You can always move in with the "friend" who "told you" to move out and let him/her support you in the style to which you've become accustomed while your divorce goes through and until your joint marital property and assets are divided.
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