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writes:i got married 5months ago. My husband keeps txting and calling his ex of 3yrs,meanwhile he never speaks to her in my front and he keeps telling me how close she is to him and that they are just good friends. I'm angry cuz he still got her pics on his phone and the pc and he deletes any msg from and to her. What do u have to say about this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008): It's wrong. My boyfriend and I had this conversation about ex-s and he said that if we ever split he would like to think we could be friends but the reality is you have to let people 'move on' and I know he never contacts his ex from a previous five year relationship. With this in mind surely your husband is somehow either not letting her move on or is not that moved on himself.... and it bes the question why. Think you need to be very blunt - he is in a relationship with you so you surely have the upper hand here?
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reader, drbadlove40  +, writes (9 February 2008):
Thats a double edged sword..if you say its OK...you are turning your back as to what could become an affair. I agree with Christie ann...stop this before you one day wished you did. Its time he move on and find new friend in his new life with you. Ex b friend and g friends never ever work out to be just friends...ever
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008): Well if you had read my answers in the past then you would realise that I HATE EXS with a passion!!!!! They have been the bain of my life in the past.
Talk to him about it and tell him that you are not chuffed about him still having her pic on anything. Why does he have to text and keep in touch with her anyway? Do they have kids, if not then there is no reason. Talk to him.
Get the silly bitch out of his and your life.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008): Ok my boyfriend always told me "You can't be friends with exes" and he meant it both ways, he doesn't talk to any of his exes because feelings always get rekindled when you see that one person that made you feel a certain way at one point in your life, and I learned that I can't be friends with my ex-boyfriends...one of my ex-boyfriends was engaged to this girl and we started talking again, and he kept telling me how he wanted me, and how I was so great, and I had a bf at the time, and he was fixated on us leaving our significant others to be together for sometime and then come back to them later.Friendships with exes don't work, they really don't especially if they have had a sexual past, its always gonna come back. Trust me, I know from personal experience and I'm a girl, I don't talk to my exes anymore because I love my boyfriend and he's all I need to be happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008): All I can say is that I am in a relationship of 5 months, and I am still calling/emailing my ex husband, and cat-sitting for him etc. I have asked my current partner if he minds, and he says he doesn't. I think you need to have a talk with your husband and say that you do mind. If he is that close to her, and it is as friends, then there is nothing to stop you from all meeting up, and all being friends. Otherwise, if it all takes place behind your back, I can see how it feels like he is having a strange type of affair, although an emotional one, not a physical one.
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