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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:If your husband had served a prison sentence for physically harming you but you forgave him and visited him and stood by him and he made you so many promises that these things would never happen again and he was going to give you a nice life and make things right and then when he was released he went and did similar things again and started to take drugs and behaved awfully towards me what would you do when he is now locked up again within a year?Because this time I have not been to visit him or sent him any money like last time as I am really angry that I waited for him last time and he gave me so many false promises that now I do not believe a word he tells me, he phones me and says I do not care for him and I don't go to visit him or ask him if he needs anything.Basically I don't have much to say to him now and so he becomes abusive towards me on my the phone and accuses me of cheating saying that's why I don'twant to be with him.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (20 January 2016):
 It's good that you wised up and stopped visiting him, sending him money and showing any interest in him. My question is why is he still your husband?
Stop answering the phone when he calls and speak to an attorney.
This guy should be history already.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2016): Get a divorce and stop taking prison calls. Men who abuse women don't deserve 2nd or 3rd chances to possibly cripple you emotionally, physically, or even put you in a grave.
The sad thing is, you believed him in spite of all the statistics. Published reports about men with anger-issues, spousal-abuse, and domestic-violence. It's the same worldwide, across every ocean.
Now's the time to get your legal ducks in a row, and find a new life. Get a restraining-order and go to counseling. You're strong now, but the minute he gets out;
you'll do like the highest percentage of abused-women. You'll take him back; and start the cycle all over again.
Use your common-sense. Of course he will promise to change; but he won't really do it. If he does, good for him; but you should be long-gone if that miracle should ever happen.
By the freaking way! Who the hell does he think he is??? Locked up in prison, and accusing you of anything?!!! Who's the one tried and convicted? Lies he has told is the least of your problems. He didn't end up in jail only because he "lied" to you!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (20 January 2016):
 Next time he phones remind him he broke his promises and that you are under no legal obligation to support him emotionally or financially. Tell him you are filing for divorce because HE broke the marriage contract and then block his number so that he can no longer contact you to spew his rubbish.
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