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writes:hi, my husband is always looking for an excuse to drink when ever he gets back from work. He said drinking makes him relaxed I decided him to pick wine instead of beer. Because he already got beer belly coming out. Do you think this is the right choice? And he do have drinking history and because of his drinking issue he already got in so many troubles. And I am traveling overseas for one month to see my family. But I am afraid how he is gonna survive.. . Reply to this Question
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reader, boo22  +, writes (30 July 2017):
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He will still get a beer belly if he drinks wine.
There is usually more alcohol in wine than beer so it will make his belly even bigger over time.
You need to know that you didn't cause it, you can't change it or control the situation.
Now you know this enjoy your holiday with your family.
There is a good website called SoberRecovery
Check out the friends and family of alcoholics forum.
It will really help just reading other people's posts.
There is a lot of wisdom there x
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (28 July 2017):
 He is an alcoholic and he needs help. The minute that drinking alcohol starts getting you into trouble and you can't leave it alone, you have a really serious problem.
I suggest that maybe you try to get him to attend some AA meetings which he probably won't take kindly to since he won't believe that he's an alcoholic (ye). You should at least try talking to him and do a little research.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2017): You say his drinking issues have already gotten him into trouble. This indicates he definitely has drinking problems and is most likely an alcoholic.Replacing his beer with wine is not a solution to your/his problem. First he needs to admit he has a drinking problem and then he needs to attend AA meetings and stop drinking. Getting him to admit this will not be easy.I know this because I was married to an alcoholic and my son is an alcoholic. It took years of untold trouble and, finally, court ordered AA meetings before my husband would admit he had a problem. My son, now 40, has been in even worse trouble throughout his life.If you accuse him of having a drinking problem he will deny this. Likely he will get angry and may try to place the blame on you. It took me seventeen years of worry and heartache to realize nothing was going to change so I left.I'm telling you my story so that you can be prepared for what is to come. Hopefully he will listen to you, admit his problem and make a change. If he doesn't then don't allow him to take over your life with constant worry, problems and heartache. If he won't make a change you would be doing yourself a big favor to leave him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 July 2017):
 You know people still get "fat" from wine, right? It's the alcohol that makes you fat not just beer.
How much is he drinking? Can he go days, weeks without?
How does the drinking affect you?
And honestly? Why would you "pick" what he should drink instead of suggesting he DOESN'T drink? I mean a drink here and there, fine but EVERYDAY after work? That seems more of a habit than something "just" to relax with.
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