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writes: My husband is a voyeur on the internet watching women etc. I caught him viewing one evening and he got very upset. And denied he was viewing women. He does not make me feel loved or attractive and seems to be only getting pleasure from this.What can I do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2006): Have a bit of self respect and see a lwyer to initiate divorce proceedings. Hes got respect for you (or any other woman for that matter) Men treat us how we teach them to treat us.....stand up for yourself . Regardless of what some of the uneducated porn supporters will say...PORN IS NOT NORAL AND PORN DOES DESTROY MARRIAGES
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (15 September 2006):
 This is an emotional betrayal of your marriage. It will effect your marriage as much as if he had slept with multiple women. You do have choices, you can treat this as the cheating it is, or try to help your husband and marriage.
If you want to just wipe your hands of it and try to keep your self-esteem intact go talk to a lawyer about a divorce. Then get on with your life, further your career, get more education, get counselling to work through what he put you through, and be happy.
If you want to make a go of it: You still need to get into counselling to work through what you have, are, and will, go through.
1.Don't keep silent tell his and your family, friends, every person he interacts with. You are going to need all the help and support, you can get for him and yourself.
2. Insist on counselling, there are groups for sexual addicts http://saa-recovery.org/
He is a sexual addict, this is the use of sex or pornography to address non-sexual emotional needs. This condition will not only disrupts his everyday life but also destroys it in the process.
One way to understand why a person is addicted to sex is to look at other types of addiction such as drugs and alcohol. Someone who is addicted to alcohol or drugs uses these substances to change his/her moods; in other words, the addict tries to numb emotional pain. The substance will become more important than family, friends and work.
Just like a drug addict he is hiding his addiction, lying about it, and pushing you away to keep his habit going.
3. Take the time to learn about this addiction then decide if your already battered self-esteem can go through the process of getting him help. He will most likely fight you on this and retaliate when you start opening this can of worms to his friends and family.
This is a very tough choice for you, no one should think badly of you if you don't want to go through this on top of everything else.
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