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reader, Cateyes +, writes (22 June 2007):
 There's not much to go on here, but knowing myself, I would change the locks before he got home. Now mind you, there has got to be a reason he is coming home so late each night. Why? Is he an alcoholic? Is he seeing someone else? Have you two talked about this and how it is affecting your relationship, because I know it is. I would try and talk with him first and let him know how you are feeling. This is not "normal" for a husband to do this unless there is a problem and you need to find out what it is. If you make him mad, things could get worse and that is not what you are wanting to do. You want to get to the root of the problem so he will want to come home and be with you and your family if you have one. Let him know you are concerned and that you care and hopefully he will open up to you with what is troubling him or if the situation is about the two of you.Good Luck to you.
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (21 June 2007):
 Do you have children?
If he is coming home and it is late and it is on a regular basis without explanation then you need to sit down and talk to find out what is going on.
Failing that, bolt the door love and when he tries to bang the door down put ear plugs in. He may only do it once and that would teach him a lesson, say you had headphones on and fell asleep and then if he has to sleep in the car for a night he may think twice about doing it again. You must have accidentally knocked the catch on the door as you had heard a noise outside your house and wanted to make yourself and if you have them/children safe as he wasn't there and you felt a little scared.
Only resort to this if the talking fails, mind you after chatting to him he would be wise to the accidentally locked door I must admit.
It really does depend on how your relationship is with him and what he is like towards you.
Your question was extremely brief so if you elaborate a bit more then we can all get a better picture of the situation and hopefully help if any of us can.
Take care.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2007): you could start by telling him how much it would make you feel better when he comes earlier and let him see all the side effects of his action and that if he's responsible enough he should start reconsidering what your telling him
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reader, flower girl +, writes (21 June 2007):
 Chain him up so he can't go out in the first place, the only thing you can do is try and talk to him and tell him that you would prefer it if you spent more time together and him coming in after 12.00 means that it is difficult to do that, failing that go out yourself for a couple of evenings and get in even later and see how he likes it he may well get the message then.
Take care.xx.
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