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writes: My husband is 34 years old, for the past two months he has started bed wetting, he couldn't realize in sleep that his bladder is loosing control, at first i supported him, i told him its OK and all but in 2 months yesterday was the third time in soaked the bed sheets, thank god children didn't knew, and this time i shouted at him, i told him how embarrassing it feels to me, i even told that what will happens when this happened in front of children or else if the kids ome to know etc.. but he says he feels ashamed.if this bed wettings happenes at my mothers place how will i manage, this his house so no problems, but there i remove the sheets and take for washing every one will be thinking some thing suspicious is going on between us. please help me,note: he never smokes, drinks any liquids or fluids at nights i dont know how to solve this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2015): GET HIM TO A DOCTOR ASAP!!!
Just to make myself clear, bring your husband to a doctor!!!
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reader, WhenCowsAttack  +, writes (30 September 2015):
Really? Your husband has a potentially very serious medical issue and you shame him over it? Frankly you are the one who should be ashamed, he isn't doing this on purpose and I can't imagine how humiliated he must feel with his own wife being so heartless and brutal.
Knock it off, now. And you can buy sheets that are designed for this sort of thing until you are able to get him to a doctor, which you must do immediately with love and support, but first apologize to him profusely for your awful and shameful behavior.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2015): He needs to get checked for prostate cancer urgently.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (29 September 2015):
 Another vote for taking him to the doctor as soon as possible. A healthy young man suddenly experiencing bedwetting doesn't need shaming or to be shouted at, he needs to be evaluated by a doctor.
Read that link that Honeypie provided, it has some good information. I have found another link here:
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From http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/urinary-incontinence/expert-answers/adult-bed-wetting/faq-20058456 :
Bed-wetting that starts in adulthood (secondary enuresis) is uncommon and requires medical evaluation.
Causes of adult bed-wetting may include:
Bladder cancer
Diabetes
Medication side effect
Neurological disorders
Obstructive sleep apnea
Prostate cancer
Prostate enlargement
Urinary tract infection
Urinary tract stones
Rarely, acute anxiety or other emotional disorders may be the cause of adult bed-wetting.
Tests and procedures used to determine the cause of adult bed-wetting include:
Physical examination
Urine tests
Urologic examinations and tests
Neurological evaluation
Treatment of adult bed-wetting is directed at the underlying cause, when possible.
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Until you do get him to the doctor, you can use specially made underwear which have pads to hold the urine. All you'd have to do is throw away the disposable underwear and no one in your family will know.
But for heaven's sake, yelling at him will not solve this problem, it is a medical condition that needs to be properly diagnosed and then treated.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (29 September 2015):
 This is a serious medical issue! He's young and doesn't drink, so this points strongly to a medical problem. Shaming him or being "understanding" isn't helping in this case. If someone who didn't have a history of it all of a sudden starts dealing with it, it's cause for you to be alarmed for his health.
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (29 September 2015):
The technical term for what your husband is experiencing is "nocturnal enuresis" and he should see a doctor about it. He shouldn't be embarrassed about seeing a doctor as this is a far more common problem than people think and all doctors will have seen it before. People don't realise how common a problem it is because it's embarrassing and no-one freely admits to it.
The most common cause of bed-wetting in adults is alcohol but, noting your country of origin, I believe you when you say that this is not the case.
Many drugs (both illicit and prescribed) can cause some people to sleep extra soundly. Has your husband started taking any new medication recently, either prescribed by a doctor or brought from a pharmacy?
Another common cause of bed-wetting is epilepsy (or similar neurological problem). Not all epileptics have seizures where they convulse and thrash about so he could be having minor seizures in his sleep enough to make his bladder release. For some people, bed-wetting is their first indication that they have developed epilepsy.
Prostate problems can also lead to bed-wetting but your husband is a bit young for that (unless he has a family history of prostate cancer). However, this condition tends to cause people to leak urine rather than empty a full bladder all in one go.
Another potential cause is a urine infection but he would be likely to have other symptoms as well which you don't mention.
Finally, intermittent bed-wetting is also a common problem amongst those who have had a traumatic or abusive childhood (but then he probably would have had bed-wetting episodes throughout adulthood rather than just for the last two months although stress could have set things off again)
But, whatever the cause, he should see a doctor. The Doc may well be able to fix the problem completely. If it ends up being a problem with no quick fix - then the doctor can also point you in the right direction for aids that can minimise the problem so you can still share a bed and go and stay at other people's houses without mess and embarrassment
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (29 September 2015):
 He should go see a doctor.
http://www.nafc.org/adult-bedwetting/
Yelling at him won't fix this, but I would not really want to share a bed if my husband wet the bed at night...
There are discrete adult diapers for wearing at night, so that might help till his doctor have figured out why this is happening.
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