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writes:My husband is 59 I'm 51.He does not seem to want sex anymore ,I'm at my wits end. I'm not sure if it's me are a medical problem.I have ask him several times if he was attracted to me he said yes,just not in sex anymore. The strange thing is he never takes resposiblity for anything he flips every thing on me. Even when he cheated he blamed me.he refuse to address it ,last week he said it's a turn off when I come out the shower without clothes. I propostioned him the other night he never came in the room.When I question him he gets upset. What am I to do? he said he wants to stay married but will not go to the doctor to see if he has a problem. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): How are you supposed to come out of the shower, fully clothed? What a moron. And he should never say those things to you anyways. I assume you wouldn't say anything like that to him, and at 59 I doubt he looks so good. He cheated on you, was it an emotional or a physical affair? Because if it were physical, then he must have some interest in sex. How long have you been married? Him flipping things around on you is totally unfair, and him refusing to get help or even to talk to you about the situation shows that he is just too selfish. If you can, I would tell him you want to separate unless he changes/gets help. Marriage counseling would be a good thing. You can find someone else, my mom got married at 54 and she never thought she'd find someone. There are divorced older males out there too you know, who are lonely and looking for love. You don't deserve to live what are supposed to be the best years of your life feeling unattractive, unloved, lonely, rejected, by the man you'e married to. He is supposed to make you feel loved, appreciated, beautiful, wanted, etc..so please consider leaving him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): When men start critizicing their wives bodies it might be because they are cheating and/or interested in someone younger. I've read about it and seen my dad act like this towards my mother. He might also be depressed. Go on Google and read about depression just to see if he has other signs and symptoms. As you might know depression is an illness and one of the symptoms is loss of sex drive. He seems to me like an idiot. Remember you are a beautiful woman and in no way your worth is based on your age or on how this idiot treats you. He is the one with the problems. Repeat this to yourself daily. Keep your head up high and work the problem the way you feel but never settle for a verbaly abusive man because it could mess up your mind and you don't deserve that.
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