My husband has changed since he joined the army and made "new friends"! What can I do?

A female age 41-50, *inkerbell_59 writes:

My husband is in the military. We we were both in the Navy before and have been together for 5 yrs. He joined the Army after getting out for a year. We were fine when he left 3 mos. ago but now he found new friends to hang out with that are in their early 20s he's 28 yrs old. He feels that he gets tempted every time they go out on clubs and would only go first base. He said I'm his only home run. I think that's very childish of him to say. I love him despite this but he thinks he missed out on those things before and that he enjoys his new life. He still calls and says that he loves me. He doesn't want to go on leave because he is still holding grudges on the past when we had petty fights. He is going to be stationed in Korea after training in June. Last time we saw each other is 3 mos. ago. I offered to see him during spring break bec. I'm in nursing school. He said he doesn't know if he has that time and not to waste my money in flying but stated that I could come over for his graduation for 4 days. I don't know what to do in this situation. Every time he calls it's all about him and he never bothers to ask how am I doing. I think he likes the attention from women. So I told that i am not okay with him having oral sex so he responded by saying that we should get a divorce. We have said this to each other many times but I don't know what to do. When I dropped him off at the airport 3 mos ago, he was so sad to go and even cried. Now is a different person after meeting all these friends, he seems like he doesn't care at all.

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