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writes: I just found out my husband is chatting with live porn girls on the computer. He has been doing this for five months secretly. He does not know I know yet. We have been married eight years and I want a divorce. It is cheating, isn't it?
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reader, lisa_01  +, writes (21 November 2005):
 You should talk to him about if first, but if your really hurt by this tell him that he either stops or your leaving him. Yes it is cheating , if i found out my boyfriend was doing that i would kick him out asap.
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reader, iggyzap +, writes (20 November 2005):
i know how you feel.when my man was looking at porn I felt really betrayed and felt like i was being cheated on too although i knew it wasnt in the flesh the thought of him looking at other women then coming to have sex with me turned my stomach and was a real turn off. it caused alot of problem between us and affected our sex life greatly. we talked and he said he didnt know it bothered me so much and swore he would stop. as far as i know he hasnt been looking at it, but at least i know he knows how i feel. so i suggest you do the same and then take it from there. but i feel that if i found my man looking at it again then it would have to be over too but if you want things to work out then talk to him and give him another shot but if not nows a good as time as any. ive been divorced too and if one person is not happy then there is no sense in making both people miserable. especially yourself. life is too short to waste
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2005): I'm not trying to defend him - there's a difference between looking at porn sites, and actually interacting with "real" people - but most guys just don't see using porn as cheating. He has gone one step further and made contact, but it is still only a step. Don't jump into divorce unless you're really sure, and other areas of your relationship are suffering. Using porn is very addictive and he may be fooling himself that his behaviour is OK. You need to talk and fast. We all make mistakes and this sonds like a mistake on his part to me. If some good honest talking fails, then think about seperating, but please talk first.
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