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writes: my husband and I have been married almost 3 years but he doesn't seem to want me to meet any of his coworkers. He never invites me to any of there work activities such as the family picnics etc. He says he's ashamed to bring me around them because they aare perverted and they would gawk at me. He says I'm too pretty and doesn't want me around them which might make sense if I looked like a super model but I don't. Anyways I just try not to think about it until the other day when we ran into a seemingly nice coworker of his at the movies and he never introduced me! I was really hurt and didn't even want to talk to him. He told me it was because he was thrown off guard and forgot. How could he forget?! I even said something to his coworker about the movie and I know my husband heard me but still said nothing. Now I'm really upset. Should I be as concerned as I am? Also I should add that he has no problem bringing me around his friends or family. Just coworkers
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (4 June 2012):
Hmmm, how very strange. The first thing that came to my mind, was that, for some reason, he has told his coworkers he isn't married. Maybe there is one that he flirts with, a lot, and doesn't want the two of you crossing paths. Unless, of course, he works with all males, then that wouldn't be it. Does he actually go on these family activities without you? Does he have friends from work that he hangs out with?
Tell him you're not buying the "I'm too pretty" excuse, and if he doesn't tell you the truth, you're going to show up at his workplace and introduce yourself to all of this coworkers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2012): Perhaps he feels its far less important for you to meet his co-workers than it is his friends and family. Which in a way makes sense. But I do find it strange why he didn't bother to introduce you to the co-worker you accidentally bumped into at the cinema. Perhaps he thinks there's a lot of handsome men he works with and he's a little insecure and doesn't want you to compare any of them to him (in a sense) and also he trusts his family and friends around you more than his co-workers?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2012): Well, I think that he's half honest and half not. If he's alrigt for you to meet friends and family, then you're not to blame from any angle. Although, I do feel the 'too pretty' line is an excuse I do think that there's something up at work like maybe he just doesn't trust his coworkers. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2012): To be honest I can not believe something like that is happening to you. How did you meet him? Are you overseas?...
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