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writes: Hiya, Can anyone please tell me why my husband does a disappearing act every so often? We want the same things in life but now and then he goes off for a day, comes back drunk, then goes again the next day and I won't see him till early hours. He won't answer my calls or tell me where he has been. He has been doing this on/off for all our relationship of 11 years. I've tried everything under the sun. Understanding, loving, reassuring, anger. Nothing works. Please help
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reader, austria33 +, writes (12 August 2005):
my dear girl---i can see what you are going thru as i went thru the exact same thing for 14 years with my ex. he started when we had our first child and it got worse with the second--he said he had to "find himself" and so on--i found out he was cheating on me and he would spend all the money and make it hard for the kids and i--i left him three years ago and life is much happier--i think you should do the same--it will be hard but you must look at the long picture--so you want this to go on for the rest of your life??
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2005): The thing is do you want the same things in life? Are there somethings in his life which he feel's like he is missing out on?
It could just be that he's out with some friends enjoying himself and feels every now and again that he needs a bit of space. Although I hate to break it you you but he might be cheating. Not answering his phone and not telling you where he has been, ands coming home late are classic example's of a love rat. Play him at his own game and see what he gets like. Go out with your mates while he's at home. Let your hair down and see if you get any reaction from him and remember if he asks where you are going all dolled up just tell him your going out, come back late and see what he's like. Concentate on yourself and I hope you work things out. Talk to him tell him it bothers you.
Take Care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2005): I'm afraid this sounds very serious. Demand to know what he's doing and where he's going. If he doesn't come clean then it's time for your "disappearing act"!
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