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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:FOur years down the married lane, I am still remain untouched by my husband. He has a medical condition of low testosterone, low libido, that is under treatment...and might take longer for him to actually sexually function. He has been loving, supportive and affectionate that I patiently wait for him. Two years down the marriage, I fell in love with someone, and he was emotionally, and physically been for me when I needed, and I for him. He is the only person in this world who knows, the relationship I have with my husband, which I told him a year later we knew each other. Recently, I shifted my place of work to a different city and it has been difficult to be in touch.Settling down in a new place and the uncalculated stress to find a few friends, had let me go cold on him, I responded to him lesser over phone and messages. Yet nevertheless we were in touch and our relationship was intact.Now when I try reconnecting with him, he kept going away from me and the past few days he has switched off his mobile which is the only contact I have off him and add to that the physical distance of 600miles. He blatantly said that, I have asked u to come out of the wedlock and marry me, you refused. I have to look out for my life as well. My husband state is physically aloof. I still respect and love him as he is. Its a great pain to live in a marriage where sex maynot be a part of...or never was. I really love the other guy, but I think I have lost him forever now. With my husband's health on the brink, and having not tasted any pleasures of a married life. And knowing only that I got from the guy and now losing that too, has made me very fragile.All these recent transgressions make me question the pointlessness and purppose of life. The two odd years I have known the other guy, we were completley in love with each other, him being with me every step of my life. Now losing him and knowing that it is becoz, I ignored him initially, is breaking my soul. He was the only resort I had, and I have lost him, to the measure of not knowing if I would be ever see him again. Being stuck in a relationship where I am loved and respected, but might not know any worldly pleasures...has just put a blank wall in front of me. How do I handle myself? I dont want to hurt anyone.
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (16 March 2012):
 Too late, you have hurt people. Its going to get worse. Unless you are willing to leave your husaband to "taste worldy pleaures" you need to leave your lover alone. He should be able to find a woman for himself and not have to share her. Your husband deserves more respect than what you are giving him. You should read on this site alone how many thousands of women would be happy to trade places with you. The fact that your husband loves and respects you is a great thing. I think it is time you stopped being a selfish little girl and started acting like a grown woman.
Best of luck
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reader, josephy  +, writes (12 March 2012):
 When you get married you took the vow to be together through better or worse. so when you say "I patiently wait for him". Woman this is what you are suppose to do for god sake!!
"He has been loving, supportive and affectionate" so you find yourself a lover to reward him!!
If you aren't happy in your marriage talk to your man and get divorce not going and cheat on him.
Selfishness is awful and should better think about the consequences of your actions.
Good luck
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