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writes:Hi i have been married now for 2 years, i think i love my husband but i'm not sure if i have married a man or a big baby. For example if i am ill he is ill as well, he lays it on thick in front of his mum. We had a holiday in Florida, and he devloped an infection in his foot, so i decided to take him to our local a and e, where they decided to admitt him, he was ok until his mum and dad arrived. Then when we went to leave he cried like a baby, saying he didn't want to stay in hospital.I cannot understand him i thought i was marrying someone who would be there for me. In this marriage i have to be the strong one. I thought this was the role of the man. Reply to this Question
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (16 October 2007):
 hi
forgive me for saying this, but in your letter you said i think i love my husband, not that you do, is there other underling problems that you have not mentioned, i would be grateful if you would write in again and clarify this before i give you advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): Men can cry and still be strong - you have a little boy on your hands there and perhaps the presence of his parents made him feel suddenly vulnerable like a little boy again. You need to demonstrate that there are clear boundaries to what is acceptable and what is childish - help him when he needs you but only go so far. If he is not able to be a man for you when you need him to be strong maybe you could find a male friend or family member to help out next time you need something doing or advice etc and really praise them in front of your partner. If things like this don't work I would say.... how long do you want to put up with these individual events? One day (if not already) you will lose respect for him and that is the beginning of the end.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (16 October 2007):
 Unfortunaely some men don't know how to dish out sympathy too well so when their other half is not well they have to be worse, and it's a well known fact they we are the stronger sex when it comes to that sort of thing us women just have to get on with things, and when it comes to parents i can be strong around many people but i cry like a baby with them, i think it's because you know they love you unconditionally.
Take care.xx.
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