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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I love my husband very much and I've been longing for the day we can be together (We're currently working in different cities ... for another 2 months). Last month, I was switched to a different project and took on different role. I love this new job, plus I'm working for a very good supervisor. He's competent yet humble, and he's excellent in resolving conflicts between people in the group. I look up and admire him in many ways.My first impression of him was "cute smile" but too bad that he is completely bald, but something very gentle about this guy, wrapped up inside this tough looking figure, really stirs my curiosity. I try not to imagine his smile anymore though it helps me out of bed every the morning to go to work. I try to do the best job I can to impress him, but I know I'm doing it all for the wrong reason... My husband's new career and mine are sort of in contrast. To develope his career, more or less I have to sacrifice mine and move to a different city (this will come eventually), far away from my family and friends. It is convenient to think what if I'm to settle with someone like my supervisor (he's single) then I don't have to worry about career or moving anywhere.I don't want to feel this way, I don't want to find excuses to go talk to him and I don't want any trouble with my marriage. Will I grow out of nonsense ? how can I get rid of this distraction ? My husband really trusts me, and that makes me feel so ashamed of myself. Reply to this Question
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reader, Reebe  +, writes (28 March 2007):
 Hi
It's always hard when you apart from the one you love, and especially if it's for some time. I think your missing him and your looking for other ways to feel some comfort. You say your boss is gentle and seems interesting, you don't say that it's a sexual attraction, I think your looking for some attention (which isn't wrong) maybe you could be friends with your boss? or would you not be able to do this without something happening?
You have to decide if your husband is worth more than your job, which can be a hard decision if you are career driven.
Maybe you need to talk to your husband explain that your concerned about how the future between you is going to work out, as you say you will continue to be apart.
If you were closer to your husband would this thought even of come into you mind?
I don't think there's any harm in how things are at the moment, but I wouldn't do anything with your boss, for one it could ruin your job there, or your boss might not like relationships within the work place, and if your husband found out it could cost you your marriage too.
This is probably just a crush, and will probably fade. I would try and think if a way where you can be in closer contact with your husband, sometimes you can't have it all!
Good Luck!
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