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writes:Okay so my situation is really weird. I met this guy who is now my husband on May 26th 2009. That same year in August I lost my virginity to him. a month later I found out I was pregnant. So we got married that same year in november. Everything was going good we got an apartment and was happy. I just had my baby on may 12th. When I had my baby that's when the arguing and fussing started. Anyways just a few days ago my best friend forwards a bunch of txt messages from my husband. He's telling her he really likes her, give him a chance, he has a school boy crush on her, and he likes her company. I went crazy when I found out. Not to mention I always am on his phone and never seen those txt messages so he must have deleted them so I wouldn't see. Okay so my husband had picked her up once and took her to my house to see me. I gues he could tell I needed to hang out with my friends again. She told me he took her to the mall to look for me a gift. Than a few days later he came back with a juicy c braclet for me. But I think he would just use getting me something nice just to hang out with her. My best friend said they hung out three times and swears nothing happened. She said she hept telling him she couldn't do that to me. She also says twice was to get me something nice and once was when he went to smoke with her little sister. So idk. I never knew he liked her but looking back I would tlk about her a lot and he seemed interested in what I was saying. My husband gets deployed in 8 days and I just dnt know what to do. He says he loves me nd wants to be with me and his son. This last week I been acting cool about the situattion me and him even had sex today. What do I do?????? And why did my besy wait so long to tell me about this?? Just to mention my husband is a freaking nempfo (I think that's how you spell it). He loves sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou so much for your advice !!
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (23 June 2010):
 You met a man, lost your virginity to him, got married and had a baby in less than a year. You may disagree with me, but you barely know this man. Stronger marriages can crack under the pressure that comes with the birth of a baby; it's going to be that much harder for the two of you because things have moved so quickly.Of course none of this justifies your husband trying to get with your best friend. I think your best friend did you a favor by being honest with you and you need to recognize that his behavior is an indication of what kind of person he really is. I agree with male anon: you're going to have a long, hard road ahead of you with this guy.
You've been warned.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): If your best friend is being so honest about all this, why in God's green earth would she get into a car with him, by themselves knowing his intentions.
I'm not saying she did anything with him, but if she was really your best friends she wouldn't talk to him at all let alone hang out with him.
Have you told your "husband" about the text messages you saw?
He is in the military, he probably loves sex and wants to get as much as he can because he will be without it for a long time while he is deployed.
But he shouldn't treat you like that.
Make it clear this behavior is unacceptable. And if he keeps it up; leave him.
The kid will always have great benefits because his father is in the military and you will always have child support from him. A jerk like this deserves it. Military or not
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reader, ctds001  +, writes (22 June 2010):
Thank your lucky star that you have a true best friend, who values you and your friendship. This would have been extremely hard for her to tell you.
As for your husband you NEED to put him on an Extreme warning, explain he is not to flirt with ANYONE in this manner again. If anything like this happens again, tell him he loses you and the pleasure of bringing up your son within a family unit.
And if anything like this happens again, kick him out and get a lawyer.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): Sorry to say, but it sounds like you have a long road ahead of you with this guy. I suggest you set him up. Have your girlfriend offer herself to him as a going away present.You hide in the closet and when he thinks he's got it made you pop out. If he doesn't show up then you'll know you can trust him.
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