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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:my husband ALWAYS talks down to me when he's with his mates. Even to the point where he starts fights over nothing just so he can yell abuse at me. what the hell is the deal?? maybe his mates don't like me and he's proving himself somehow? im sooo over it! Reply to this Question
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reader, beautiful life  +, writes (24 September 2010):
Tell him firmly and directly that you deserve respect from him, and you will not tolerate any of his abusive putdowns anymore. It's like standing up for yourself to a bully. Be brave, if this doesn't work, seek counselling and go from there. Let us know the updates!
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (24 September 2010):
 grrrr
Do you want this to go on for ever and ever?
If not, do something about it, if he wont listen seek counselling, if he wont go, go by yourself. If you live in a city or big town find out if any of the local churches, such as the Anglicans, Centrecare, Salvos etc offer a free or cheap service. If you are rural or remote ask at your Doctor's surgery or local Govt office.
If he sees you are being proactive, even without him, it might jolt him into some sort of awareness. If not, the minimum will be that you will learn some skills to either deal with his bullying or walk away from it. Demeaning you, in public and in private is considered domestic violence, perhaps he needs to learn that!
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