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writes:I'm absolutely in love with my boyfriend and have been pretty much from day one after meeting him, I moved 600 miles, from Scotland to London to be with him full time after just meeting him 4 times (for 3-7 days each time) I don’t regret any of it but I fear we will split because my sex drive is higher than his. when we first met I made him aware of this, I told him I’m very demanding as I always have been and I’ve put myself into bad situations because of it, and not knowing the extent of this he laughed it off and said he loves that I have a high sex drive. Now that we’ve been together for some time and are seriously involved, his interest in sex has dropped a little, and after we do have sex, within 25 minutes I want to go again, and if he doesn’t, I get aggressive, and we often argue about this, he said to me a month ago "I just want a day off" and to me that sounds like he wants a day off from me, which comes across that he doesn’t like living with me. I’ve suggested I go to Scotland alone for a weekend to give him space and he tells me not to. He’s off work at the moment, and he has been going away for up to a week at a time to speak with his mum’s solicitor regarding his work, and now he is in Scotland, with a mutual friend, helping his friend move some things down here. There was only a period of 2 days he was here in-between seeing his mum and going to Scotland, and all we did was argue because he feels I’m nagging at him for sex... I really do worry this will split us up and I don’t know what to do about it. Any advice please?
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reader, OmegaXF  +, writes (25 January 2009):
 Buy a vibrator that is small and portable. Turn it on when you need that edge, and continue to do that until you guys come to an agreement.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): I think you might realize that the two of you really do have differentn sex drives and they are not going to change....unless you can back off and let him do some initiating, you are going to end up pushing him away....and sex will really wane.....stop pressuring him, cuddle and kiss instead without it leading to sex....enjoy his touch and be close an intimate.....sex will happen when you and he are more relaxed about the whole issue. It doesn't sound like he is never interested in sex, but you are a bit over the top....perhaps you even have a sex addiction as you indicated you used to get into trouble over it....this is something you may want to get some therapy for because it is going to reak havoc on your life and relationship..really, you sound addicted as if it is your drug of choice....this isn't healthy for you or for him.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyour right its not the same, which is why, when i do masturbate, and regularly, at home and at work if i have the chance, that i still feel the need for sex... in fact, masturbating just gears me up for sex and makes me worse... and hes just text me just now telling me to stop going on about the arguement we had the other night cause im just stressing him out... what can i do!?!!?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): Masturbation, I know it's not the same but it's better than pestering him all the time, you might wanna buy a sex toy to facilitate this.I had a girlfriend before and she pestered me time and time again, I mean I consider myself to have a high sex drive but she was always horny. I offered to buy her a vibrator but she wasn't too keen, so I got kit and made her a replica of my penis to use, she loved it.
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