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writes:i met the girl of my dreams about 5 years ago, we dated for three.halfway though, she broke up with me over a text, because i used to get too jealous when she was hanging out with her multiple friends who happened to be guys.regardless, i changed my ways, worker super hard to get her back, and in the end i did. we were very happy for about another half year, when i came back from a camping trip with friends, she had sent me a text breaking up with me again. i feel more torn then i've ever felt before. words cannot describe how I felt about her. she was my princess, i loved her so much. we would spend hours in each others arms, hours talking on the phone. we were best friends along with lovers. now she doesn't try to talk to me anymore, she doesn't check up on me, it's like she just... forgot, how she felt about me. it changed so fast, it was so brutal for me. it's like i'm still seeing starts. and to make matters worse i can't get over her, and it's been 3 months since she left me. i haven't been with anyone else since her. i'm afraid i'm too hurt by her to move on, and i'm afraid my heart won't let me.i know "healing takes time" and "time heals all wounds", but don't give me cliche bs, i need serious help with this. i find myself crying a lot about her, about missing her body, her smell, her hands, laugh.. etc.i'm a sensitive man, but i'm not a wuss. i know how to treat a lady, and how to show love properly. i treated her like the princess i thought she was. why doesn't she treat me well back? why doesn't she care about my well being?my heart is simply put, broken. nothing makes me happy anymore, i don't smile nearly as much. life just lost all colour when she left me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me in december - I assume- he really didn't tell me - I found out via facebook that he was dating someone else- I don't have facebook but my friend told me- his best friend died and she was his best friends girlfriend- 3 weeks later they were dating...and after 6 years of knowing him - i don't know who he is anymore...He used to lie and the lies continue..He doesn't care and he has no remorse for his actions.. I was broken after that and was in my room for a solid week...I cried continously for months. I tried to meet other people but just didn't want to move on.. you have to be ready and you may never get over what happend. I still get affected by what happend.. He told me that he was sick of my face and he hated the sight of me...People who say that others should move on and get back in it are ignorant...because would you want to get back in it after someone stole your heart. NOPE...so ease back into things.. Go out with your friends...talk with girls...see what you like and don't like...be picky...You can't change her actions but you can control yours...I like someone now and as it happens they don't like me..AWESOME...not everything works out immediatly but seriously the best advice is to not look for anyone..but to let yourself feel grief because it is a loss...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): Man it sounds like you have it bad. No one knows what the future holds, this is true, but if you are constantly thinking of a person who is no longer in your life then you’re going to miss out on your youth and waste your time. And it seems like you now know what time is truly worth.
I’m in a similar boat my friend, as a matter of fact I was just broken up with; I just convinced myself mentally that breaking up is just another chapter in our otherwise personal journeys. It f***ing sux, but it shouldn’t control the course of your life.
I believe people come and go in our lives to teach us a lesson. If you learnt nothing from your relationship with her then you will continue to hold onto this feeling of loss. Find out what you learnt then try to move on.
I’m sorry for you but ‘time’ is not bs, and it does heal all wounds.
I would suggest getting a hobby, but in all realness; your ex-girlfriend will continue haunt you, because you love her so. You can tell her this one last time and live with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): Im sorry about waht happened to you.
But if you ask me this sounds more like her issues that something wrong with you. A lot of women dont appreciate what they have until its too late.
It took me over a year to get over my ex, and too this day i still think about him. You never quite get over the one person that you loved, the best you can do is realize taht you didnt do anything she just try and find a new intrest in life until you realize that you have healed. And no one deserves to be thrown away like taht but the only thing you can do is realize just how short life is and why r u wasting your time on someone who doesnt even give you a passing glance- figure of speech- Sorry if this sounds harsh but well you are home thinking bout her there is a good chance she is out there somewhere not thinking about you...
hope i help even just a tny bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): Sorry to say this but she may be your princess but you're not her prince. She's gone. You need to move on, do things, meet new people and believe me, there is a princess out there who will treat you as her prince. Hang in there buddy.
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