A
male
 ,
anonymous
writes:I am 25, gay and have been in a relationship with a loving man for four years. The problem is since we moved in together three years ago we seem to have become severely sexually incompatible.I have found myself holding back my desires. Wanting to kiss him, wanting to touch him, wanting to rip his clothes off... but not. If I tried I'd get rejected or fobbed off and after a while I couldn't handle the rejection so I stopped trying.Now I just sit tight and wait for when he wants to but this has turned out to be just as torturous. I feel like I am suppressing myself.My partner is a wonderful man and I love him very much but this is hurting me so badly and I don't think I can take it any more.BUT I really love this guy and I know he loves me. Is breaking up the answer? We have talked about the problem and last time it sounded like he'd rather break up than deal with it. I think sometimes he sees the problem as being me wanting intimacy too much.For me I love him, desire him and want him however for him I think sex is just a nice thing for couples to do now and again.I don't even know what my question is, all I know is I have been stressing out about what to do for weeks. I feel like I need to set myself free but at the same time I would be walking away from a great man I love so much.What to do! I think my heart is breaking :(
View related questions:
moved in Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008): i'm having the same problem only one year in. he makes more of an effort that your boyfriend seems to but my guy just isn't as into sex as i am. it has forced me to repress my desire for him a little and to start looking elsewhere.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice which I totally agree with. The problem is that I have talked about and tried to resolve the problem many times and it hasn't helped.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2008): My question is, if he loves you why doesn't he want to have sex with you? Maybe he has some problem that he's not telling. Have a good talk about your sexual problem with him. Sex is just a part of the relationship. Do you think its worth it to break up a 4 year relationship only due to sexual incompatibility? Can you throw it all away just like that? If yes, by all mean break up. If not, deal with the problem.
...............................
|
