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writes:I'm starting to get rather worried about this psychological issue I have about sex. I'm not looking for a relationship at the moment and since I'm a virgin the notion of NSA seems a lot more appealing to me tbh (I'm quite happy being single).Problem is, whenever I've met someone in a bar/scheduled a meeting online I've always had to back out. I have this weird deep routed fear that the guy will find me unattractive once in the bedroom. Now it's not like I'm ugly; I have a good looking face and a slightly toned, skinny body, but for some reason I just get totally nervous at the thought of him finding me less attractive than he'd hoped. It's idiotic I know, but it's stopping me from getting anywhere with anyone. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): I no how you feel. I'm around your age and tend to feel self conscious about my body when I think about having sex. I also fear that the guy will find me unattractive in bed. Its probably a sign that you're not ready for sex. Don't think that you have sleep with any guy that you date. No need to rush into anything. When you're ready and have no doubts then I say go for it. I just want to add that guys love with when a girl is confident about herself and her body whether in or out of the bedroom than one who would hide herself for fear of rejection. And if a guy doesn't like your appearance is lose in another guy's gain (hopefully a decent one). Although I tend to be shy in bed I have been known to be an exhibitionist. The way I see it we have all been gifted with bodys and we shouldn't be afraid to show them off!
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