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writes: I am twenty years old and the guy I have been dating for two years is nineteen. We have been attached at the hip for those two years with the exception of a 4 month break up where we saw other people. The problem is that we constantly argue over stupid things, and I know it is mostly my instigating that starts these arguments because of a mental diagnosis I have and which I take medication for and work hard on in therapy.Just recently I instigated another fight, and I broke it off with my boyfriend during my anger. When I went back a few days later as I always have in the past to apologize and ask him to go back out, he rejected me.He's come to the conclusion that he just wants to be single right now and "grow on his own" and enjoy college life, but that he still wants me as a friend. I agreed as much as this hurt because I want to keep him in my life...and then I asked/offered to be friends with benefits, and after he made absolutely sure that I was sure about it, he said OK. Now I feel ashamed of myself, and I know that part of why I am doing this is because it still keeps him close to me as if we are dating. It is still one thing left for me to hold on to that puts me apart from the rest of his friends. What should I do???
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reader, Danielle13 +, writes (17 February 2006):
 I would like to say awesome to this answer! I was in the situation as well and yes we are now back together, plannig a future and buying a house! It can work! x
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reader, Creampuff +, writes (17 February 2006):
 Something similar happend to me although he was the one to finnish us i feel i stared it complaining he had no time for me. I did the same thing we became friends with benefits because i still really wanted to be with him and like u felt this would keep me close to him as if we were still together, i aslo think there is nothing to be ahamed of for doing this. As for me a month or so later he took me back and were still together now, it is a possibility for you as well, although it is also possible that it wont ur situation seems a little diffrant to mine and you may need to spend this time focusing on ur mental situation and enjoy being single for a while, if he comes back to you, he comes back and if he dosnt im sure there will be someone else out there for you in the end it is your desision but i would consentrate on urself for the times being otherwise its always going to be the same.Good luck xx
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