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female
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36-40,
*ndlesssong
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now. Its the first "real" relationship I've been in. I realy love my boyfriend and he's a great guy, though he lives in Illinois while I live in Ohio. We hardly get to see each other, though we talk every day. Though we've only been together 4 months it feels like I've known him my whole life and I can't imagine not ever being with him. He's asked me to move in with him, and I promised him I would once I graduate (college, not high school). However, its more than just that. For awhile we've been saying we want to be with the other forever and just the other night he got the nerve up to say just what he meant by it and that he loves me enough that sometimes he thinks of ways to present a ring to me. Now he's told me he's going away to training for the military for over 10 weeks and he's afraid to loose me. I've told him I'm not going to be some girl who breaks up with him while he's away and that I'll wait. But he said he's hinted that he's thinking of proposing. I know I'll say yes no matter when he does it, but is it too soon to be thinking about being together our whole lives? No matter how confident we are that nothing can split us apart? I'm also realy nervous that if he does, what my family and friends will think about me getting engaged to a guy I've only been with 4 months.
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reader, artlover +, writes (5 March 2007):
 Yes he is rushing it. At least he is honest about his motivation, which is fear. fear is not a good reason to get married. you already know that it is not a good idea and it sounds like it is not what you want.
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artlover
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