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writes:My girlfrend's past distburbs me so much that i cant control myself in what so eva am doing when it comes up in my brain.she had three abortion for her first guy and yet he later left her saying he wasn't responsible for them,i love her so much that i pittied her.and wonder why she has to go through so much.it pains me more bcos she was young at those time,and she is finding it difficult to forget too.and that is what av been trying to solve bt I can't.help me forget this please,it keeps bodering me and she knows.help us out
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2013): Its understandable that you feel upset when you think about parts of her past which weren't very nice. But dwelling on it isn't going to help you or her. It will help her to know that you listen and that you understand how she feels but pitting her wont help her because the only way that she can move forward is by going to see her doctor to find a therapist that can help her through it and help her to move forward. It might also be a good idea for you to do the same if it is bothering you that much but don't dwell on it because nothing positive can out of dwelling on something. And although it may not seem like it there are positives for one she is very lucky to have someone who cares and loves her.
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Lauren
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2013): The most important thing is the two of you don't repeat past mistakes, she needs to draw a line under that phase of her life and maybe even seek counselling. You need to be responsible and make sure as much as you can she is never put in the position of having an unwanted pregnancy.
Human beings are not perfect, I hope you both can learn from her previous relationship, that life is precious and look forward to a future that is based on trust and care and the opposite of her past. I wish you both much happiness x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2013): What decisions she made in her past were her choices, they were the best ones for her at that time. Who does her past really bother, you or her?
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