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writes:Im 23 and gay. My gf is 30. there is no problem with the age. We've been together for 2 years and 3 months. Things were bad between us the past 7 months. But there was still love between us. now she want to splitup because she says she doesnt love me anymore. not in that way. this is breaking me. i love her so much and i dont want to live without her. im broken!! Should i let her go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008): Me and my g/f for 4 years have had troubles like all couples do but she has told me that she doesn't love me any more and doesn't want a relationship with anybody. Trouble is that its VERY hard for me to hear that and I keep breaking down at work, at home, on the phone to my mum, you name it. I really want to prove to her that 'us' is worth fighting for and I a prepeared to do ANYTHING I can to win her back.We live together and see seems upset by other things like work and money etc..., she come in around midnight (after work) and calls up the stairs hello 'darling' without fail. She then has something to eat and then comes up to get ready for bed. She says goodnight and goes off to the spare room - this kills me, all I want to do is tell her that I love her, that I'm here for her, she can always talk to me and if she changes her mind I'll be waiting for her.She is my all and I have lost so much over the years that I always felt that I had found the 'one'. She looked after me as I did the same through thick and thing as it just seems a shame to throw it all way.I know that I cant make her love me but I wish I could :-(
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): hello. the best piece of advice i can say is "if you love her then you should fight to win her love back". there are many ways of doing this 1) if she lets you cuddle up to her and tell her that you love her 2) talk to her about whether she is feeling insecure but afraid to say how she feels 3) dont give up,explore why she feels she doesnt love you anymore 4) it mite be hard but dont grovel..leave yrself with some pride.
My personal opinion is once you fall out of love you cant get it back again, however i fell out of love and did fall back in love with the same person again, after lots of talking and getting to know each other again, and it was much better than the first time round...so dont give up
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): if you love something set it free .... if it loves you it will return .....
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reader, cd206  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 Take a deep breath and let her go. Believe me, I know how hard this is but if you really love her you have to let her go.
CD
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2007): As hard as it will be on you,I would say the best thing to do is respect her wishes and let her go,Then at least the relationship could end with some sort of friendship.Otherwise things could get nastier and resentment will kick in and it will not end on such friendly terms.I know its hard when you love a person and the relationship turns sour but its for the best in the long run.
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