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*ardrive
writes:So here's the thing. Me and my girlfiend were friends for a year and then we dated for two years. She's going school and working full time. She doesn't have a lot of time to c me. Day before yesterday she calls and says she wants a break. She is too busy to have a boyfriend. And I will b better without her. I love her way too much to let her go. I don't deserve her. I deserve more love and stuff like that. She just wants to b friends.she says she is not passionate abt me nemore. She doesn't have the time to think abt me. She is distAncing herself away from me. She says she still thinks down the lane she will marry have kids withme. But y the break. I also know a break is actually a break up. She says who knows we might get together later maybe a month a year 4 years. I called her the next day. She was crying. I said I want u back. She said no it's a cycle I won't have time we will fight again. She said to stop saying that I want her back and that she was getting annoyed and aggravated. She said her ex did the same thing and she never talked to him again. She said she wants to b friends with me. I haven't slept since. I'm hungry but I can't eat. Me and her r gonna hve dinner Tuesday night. I don't know what to tell her. Plz help need advise thanks in advance.
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reader, hardrive +, writes (1 December 2008):
hardrive is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe said we will can b freinds. Do u think I should just be freinds with her. ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): I think she's being selfish. If you were really important in her life she wouldn't risk losing you to someone else. So now you have to ask yourself do you want to be with a person who is willing to loose you? or do you want someone who will be by your side no matter what happens?!
Working and school is a bullshit excuse, you don't turn your back on someone.
Basically its harsh, you have to let it sink in that it's probably over for now. Do all the things you wanted to do when you were with her but you couldn't. It takes time, chin up high man, there will be others who will appreciate a relationship more.
She wants to marry you and all that bullshit is just to ease your pain from the break up. Trust me in time you will realise she aint't worth it. If you show her your moving on and can live without her, and you start meeting other women, she will come running back, then you can decide if you want her back anymore or not. If she doesn't then good riddance.
Stay strong.
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