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writes:hi i am a 16 year boy old that needs a woman's view on how to deal with my relationship. my girlfriend told me that she cheated on me a month ago, twice. two days after she cried in my arms and told me she was going to have a baby. she even said that one of the people she did it with deserved it because he liked her since she was twelve. well she got an abortion, but now that she has told me about what she did i cant look at her the same anymore but i cant leave her because i love her too much. i don't understand how she could say that he deserved it? what has he done to deserve it? what does that mean, your gonna go screw around with every guy that has know you for a long time? i dont know what i should do...
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reader, kim 18  +, writes (8 September 2008):
 I understand that u love her but if she can cheat on u them she dosent love u from wot u have said ur girlfriend isnt a very nice person im sorry to say that cuz now that makes me sound like i dont give people a fair chance any way u should find a girl that loves u back and dosent feel the need to cheat on u i dont no why ur girlfriend thinks that the lad she had sex with deserved it cuz it seems to me that all he did wrong was like the wrong girl same as u and had sex without a condom or without makin sure she was on the pill. i think u should end it with her and find some one better or just be one ur own for a bit hope this helps gd luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): Well,saying he deserves it is very unexpected,and in no wayan excuse for what she did.I know it's hard to leave her cause you love her.But everyone makes mistakes,and cheating is not a mistake because they know they are doing it and hurting the other person.You should leave her,because it waswrong and she could do it again and you don't want to face that hurt again.And there has to be trust in a relationship,and obviously with what she did,if you decided to stay withher,would not be there from you for a long time.You shouldleave and find someone you can actually trust and who makesyou happy.Hope I helped.Follow your heart with your decision.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (8 September 2008):
 my friend was in something similar although no pregnancie, he was going to cheat on her and would of went all the way, they split and now together he was seen having lots of uninnocent messages on bebo and what not about people in his life split again, and now their together but the love is fading and their is no trust, as anon says take a step back and see how you feel about the situation, that wasnt a nice thing for her to say or do. think about it do you think you can trust her ? if you cannot look at her now can you again ? do you think how things have happened she is the type of person to be with? you need to have a long hard think about this, because sometimes love is not enough to overcome things.. i hope you good luck keep us updated aphexy xx
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reader, MissMilly +, writes (8 September 2008):
 Hi There,Well cheating on someone is a real big thing. If you do it such as your girlfriend done she might of had a reason mabey she felt you where not giving her enough attention or she was just unhappy after an argument you 2 may of had.If you don't feel the same way about her you might have to dump her, do you feel the way you felt about her about another person now? If you still love her you may be best to still stay with her but it will be real hard to get past something like this. You will just have to try and forgive her.Yours Faithfully, Miss Milly
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): Personally I think you should take a step back from your relationship and imagine if it was one of your friends in the same situation and what you would tell them. I think if your girlfriend could cheat on you once and say something that hurtful then she'll do it again and thats not someone you want to be with.
I know its hard if you love her but it might be better to get out before you get hurt again.
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