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writes:So I have been dating this girl for a while about 8 months now and we seem to be good for eachother. The relationship is difficult to explain because we live so far away and it gets difficult sometimes. Anyways i have been noticing something about her and i don't know what you guys might think about this! well anyways she meets guys on facebook and chats with them and then they meet and she spends time with them, i mean she literally waits around on facebook and logs into when they log on, she has two seperate accounts and on her fake profile it seems she just stalks them and then when they log on the guys she talks to, she suddenly logs on, so i talked to her about it and she said they were just friends and in my mind yeah right no one waits for four hours(she literally does wait for four hours at times) online to wait for another guy to log on, to just be friends!! so i said to myself this girl is either playing me or thinks i'am stupid. Anyways she even puts pictures of them on her facebook page, after they hangout. Well this is the confusing part about it, the guys later unfriend her and refuse to talk to her, so she says that she only wants to talk and meet people as friends and when they ask her out she refuses and they unfriend her. anyways i did something that i was not proud of so i logged on facebook and made a fake profile and started talking to some guys that she started talking to and i was suprised to find out that she told them that she had a boyfriend and that she only wants to meet to be friends, the guys told me that they asked her out a million times after they meet but she later refused! So my question is why does she stalk these guys on facebook so hardcore and meet them but she later refuses to talk to date them, in my mind i thought she was dating them.. why does she do this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012): Well you know its not all innocent because as you said "Guys she flirts with", you know she's doing it but lying to you about it. Why would she flirt with guys she's just intending to meet as friends if its all innocent? She's making a fool of you too. If its attention she feels deprived of, its YOU she should be getting it from, so why not give YOU a phone call, the guy she's meant to be in a relationship with and love?
Whatever she meets these guys for its certainly not attention. I stick by the notion in my first response, she gets some twisted buzz out of building guys hopes up and then knocking them down. Its too much of a coincidence how ALL these guys get the same impression that she's into them, yet after she meets them, they all end up disappointed to the point they actually delete her as a friend off facebook. Us guys aren't usually that sensitive about things unless we feel let down THAT badly! She's a fatal attraction in my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think all of you guys have solid points! The thing is that her other fake account doesnt really have her real name or pictures of her, she just puts alot of comments and stuff, i also noticed in her real profile that she has more guy friends than girl friends it is like a 70 to 30 percent thing! And all these guys that she flirts with are in her real account, her fake profile has no friends or anything like that. Well anyways i do agree that she likes alot of attention, and to be honest to me it's getting annoying, i mean i dont go around talking to other girls on facebook and meeting them, i asked her about it and she told me she was just friends, i was like yeah right girl stop playing!!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 November 2012):
 My first thought about your GF... WEIRDO!
She does it because she think it makes her "popular" to have all these "male friends" chasing and wanting her and for the attention. Both seems somewhat pathetic. No offense.
No (sane)girl stalks guys to make "friends" on a Fake Facebook account.
Sorry your GF is what people would call an Attention -Wh...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012): Let's just clear one thing up first of all : NOBODY needs a fake facebook account for "just friends" if its all innocent! I urge you to ask her why, if its all innocent, she can't have these guys on her real account and cancel the other one and see what she says...
I'll tell you why I think she has a fake facebook profile as well as a real one though shall I?
One is for her friends, and the other is for her VICTIMS!
Your "girlfriend" is the sort of girl that gets some twisted amusement from playing with guys emotions, and leads them down the road only to leave them lost. I'll tell you also why she won't have these guys on her real facebook, its so that when she's pissed some guy off and left him with hurt feelings because she turned out to be a fake and he's wasted a lot of time and emotions on her, she can log out of the fake account, log into her real one, and have no repercussions on her REAL social life, no nasty threats and no one posting on her wall revealing what she's done and giving her a bad name.
Don't you just think its bit of a coincidence that ALL of the guys on her fake account "just happen" to get the impression she's interested in them? Do you not think she may GIVE them that impression by flirting and telling them they're hot and that she would like to meet them? I bet it also says she's single on her fake account too doesn't it? I wonder why that is... Its because she's making out to them that she's genuine and knows they will spot her game coming a mile off if they know she's already in a relationship.
Wake up man and get rid. She's probably using you too, but just on a longer scale my friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012): Ditto Aunt Honesty's response - she's doing this for attention. Although she hasn't actually cheated I still think it's unfair of her to actively persue a guy when she hasn't made it abundantly clear from the beginning that she just wants to be friends.
Maybe a way to resolve this is to spend more time giving her the attention she wants but to be honest I'm not entirely sure you'll be able to fill the emotional 'gap' she has.
Sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear but that's just how I've read your response
Wishing you well x
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 November 2012):
 It sounds to me like she does this for the attention! You are in a long distant relationship which can be hard to deal with, I bet she doesn't feel like she gets enough attention from you as a boyfriend because you are at a distance therefore she seeks company in other people. She wants to feel desired and wanted, so she does that by chatting to these guys and when she realises they want more she backs off but it gives her that feeling that she is wanted.
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