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writes:iam 22 dating a girl of 17 and when ever i want to have sex with her she always refused telling me no she is a virgin and not yet time but my friends always told me that she is not and i dont know what to do cos i dont want to loose her cos i love her so much i didnt want her for sex but what my friends keep saying to me makes my heart melt and i feel bad thinking she is cheating on me ........whats should i do about this??? Reply to this Question
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reader, daletom +, writes (20 December 2008):
Whether she is a virgin or not, if she isn't ready for sex with you then you need to respect her wishes!
Why should her sexual experience even matter? Are you two married (to each other)? If she will have sex with you, without a strong, credible commitment to something like "marriage" or "life partners", then you better accept that she would (or has) had sex with other guys she dates.
And how do your friends figure into this? Are you in some kind of contest together, keeping score or carving notches? Do you get more points for having sex with a virgin?
It sounds like you need to do a little more thinking about what sex is all about.
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reader, PinkCheers  +, writes (19 December 2008):
If you love her you like you say you do. Then this should be a no brainer. You should believe she hasn't had sex. For most people it's not easy to tell others that they are a virgin. Your friends could very well be calling bull shit based on her looks alone. Thier thoughts could possibly be on the line of, if she doesn't look like she's a virgin how could she possibly be one? That is ridiculous. Even sexy people save themselves for someone special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): Am for Nigeria and i have the same question exactly as your now at hand but one thing i have in handd for you is not to listen to your godamned friends unless they provideae strongiyl profreers to stand there evidencea
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reader, blackberry008 +, writes (30 September 2008):
 If she is not a virgin, then she would have sex with you now. When a girl loses her virginity it becomes easier for her to give it again.
And if you trust your girlfriend then believe her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2008): As your girlfriend, he opinion of things comes first now.
If you are gonna let people sow seeds of mistrust, without any proof to their claims, then the relationships is never going to work.
Be a man and tell your mates to shove it up their ass unless they can come up with some hard evidence to support thier claims.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): Dear Poster
Why are you discussing your relationship with your friends?
Can you trust your friends? Or are they jealous?
Is it any of there business if you have sex with the girl or not?
If you really love her like you mentioned; surely you will respect her and not discuss her with your friends.
Has she given you any reason not to believe her (other then what your friends are saying)?
What makes you think that she is cheating on you? Do you have any proof?
I suggest you stop listening to your friends; look at the facts; if you then still feel worried or concerned talk to her about your feelings and your concerns. Be honest and open but be careful do not allow your friends to poison your mind and ruin something beautiful for you.
Best wishes and keep SMILING.
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