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*rooklyn Dude
writes:My girlfriend of 5 years only wants to have sex when she is drunk, also she always want me to come fast and don't touch her again till next time. I been working a lot on fore play, getting down on her, learning about what makes her feel better, romance, cooking for her, candles, dates, small gifts(stuff that I know that she really likes) massages, sexual toys, and everything thatis in the lovers playbook. But I'm not able to make her come, she is rushing me so she can just relax. It is very frustrating and I don't see it how can I give her more happiness. Does anyone thinks that should we go separate ways?? Thanks for your coments in advance.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 May 2013):
 Have you asked HER about it? Ask her why she only wants you when she's drunk? If after 5 years you can't talk to her about your sex life, then parting ways may be the only option.
Her inability to orgasm is not a failure on your part and probably not issue. Many women do not orgasm from intercourse at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2013): It sounds as though she might have an issue with her body and therefore either has to be drunk and/or wants to get sex over with as quickly as possible. There are a lot of women out there who feel like that, so it's not uncommon, but it is a problem since it is stopping you both from having a satisfying sex life. Have you asked her why she acts the way she does? After 5 years you should easily be able to discuss this and find a solution together.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (29 May 2013):
Well what does she have to say about the situation? The first thing is to be comfortable and so close that you can talk about anything and you can explain your desire to give her more pleasure and she can tell you what she is feeling. Certainly what you describe, after knowing each other 5 years, is not "normal" and would suggest she has some problems. If everything else in your relationship is ok then it could well be a bad experience from her past so tread carefully.
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