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writes:So I'm with my girlfriend for 2 years now, we lived together and everything was good, we never fight and are happy together.2 weeks ago she had to move to another town that's 1 hour flight away to take care of some things at home. Since then I noticed a distinct pattern that makes me feel like she only contacts me because she feels obliged to...The things is, she never never randomly texts me or contacts me during the day, and no it's not that she is super busy, trust me. But that's her excuse yes. But seriously, everyone has small compartments of time available throughout the day. And if you love someone and think about that person, in my mind you will use that time to at least sometimes communicate with your lover.She Does contact me twice a day, but always around the same times, Never randomly throughout the day. It's like she's on a schedule, like ok I contact him in the morning and in the evening and that's enough...I stopped texting her during the day and Im laying low with contacting her myself now because I feel like she doesn't really love me because of the way she contacts me (feels like a schedule) and the lack of spontaneous communication.I communicated with her about this and she always tells me she loves me and I believe her when she says that. I just feel that her actions in the contacting each other department tell a different story so I don't know what to think...Yesterday I was a bit mad at her, not really but I acted kind of upset, because we were talking and then I expected her to come online as she communicated, but then she just disappeared for 3 hours without letting me know that "oh hey, I cant come online because...". I got mad because it's a regular occurrence, and often she takes a long time to reply also when I send her a message. So now I feel what the point in texting her, it just makes me frustrated because she never seems to have time to me, or rather make time for me is what I feel.Please I need some outside input on this.. Is my instinct giving me the right message here, would you feel the same? Or am I just overreacting and reading to much into these things?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 June 2013):
 She contacts you twice a day and that's not enough for you?
maybe you are not cut out for an LDR.
when my husband and I were LDR I would call him in the morning at his request to wake him and I would call him when I went to bed. Some days we had more contact but most days we did not.
Even now we have many days when I do not see him till I get home and if he's sleeping and I go to bed before he gets up we may have no contact at all other than sleeping in the same bed.
when is she coming home to you?
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