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writes: well im back after 4 years.so i have been with my girlfriend now for three years we actually split up a year ago but i guess i felt we worked it out because nothing changed we still slepted in the same bed had sex did everything couples do.so she told me 6 months ago she was gonna move i said thats not what i wanted and loved her and give me time i can be better.well she went ahead and moved out first of september we remain friends but i am a mess actually getting depression meds tomorrow i love her so much and dont want to live without her she said she doesnt want to date anyone and dont think she is and hasnt shut the door on us just needs space doesnt know what she wants.she left some stuff here even her dog.she rented a place doesnt alloow pets and i love animals so i said i will keep her plus i have two..please help we do talk.we are best friends she came over sunday and we even had sex.i dont want to get hopes up that there is a chance maybe she was just horny.but i love her and have told her how i feel.I feel like im walking on glass i cant be too pushy and need to give her time to miss me i guess but im lost.what do i do she is worth the wait but how long do i wait.im tired of people today not working things out i am willing to do what it takes.i let her inniciate it all it has to be on her terms i guess since she left i dont want to push her away by crying to her too much or calling please help
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reader, CheesyMan  +, writes (6 February 2011):
I am in the same *exact* spot. I think it will have been 3 years in march. she just moved out last week. i'm an absolute wreck. i've been a decent guy, but i have a lot of cases where I "dont' listen to her" and a lot of it is i have a really bad memory and often she says one thing and i hear another. the hardest part is before she moved out i had set up all these valentines day plans and now i'm not sure what to do. i should give her her space, but at the same time, i do want to show her i love her.
i've asked her to talk to other people about what she's going through but she wouldn't listen. she stopped taking her antidepressants and now she's somewhere else. i don't know what i can do, i'm kind of screwed if i approach her about the subject, but i'm not completely sure she'll find her way on her own.
i love her very much and i miss her terribly and it's only been 4 days.
i'm slowly coming around to the realization about setting someone free... but it doesn't make it any easier.
-Lost in Phoenix
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reader, jtbgsexy +, writes (27 September 2010):
jtbgsexy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you im trying she does love me just doesnt know what she wants.i love her so much i just dont know how to be around her im trying to play it cool but this is killing me
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 You really need to not contact her for a couple of weeks and if she comes around to you dont have sex with her unless she is willing to get back with you as this is going to hurt you even more believe me, as i was in this situation myself. How ever hard it is dont give in to her, she obviously needs space to sort her head out so give her that, but dont let her use you. Give her some time maybe two or three weeks without contacting her then ask her if she is willing to work on your relationship tell her you love her and dont want to lose her but dont come across as to desperate as you will only feel even more depressed is she begins using you. I hope this has helped even in the slightest, try and take your mind of things by going out with friends and enjoying yourself. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): Be strong and keep this famous saying in mind "If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were." Seems like you love her and hopefully she loves you back but if she doesn't then trust me you would rather be with someone that does. Unfortunately, we can't make people love or feel the same for us as we do for them. I've been in a similar situation and I feel your pain but there is not much you can do but be strong and optimistic. Hope things will work out for you, good luck!
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